Enneagram Type And Wing 9W8 Forum Post

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AzureSerenity 5/13/2024 6:12:40 AM

Hello Enneagram enthusiasts! I've recently determined that I am a primary Type 9 with an 8 wing (9w8). 🤔 I'm trying to understand better how this combination affects my relationships, decision-making, and personal growth. I seem to desire peace and harmony, but I also find myself exhibiting aggressive or assertive behaviors from the 8 wing. Is there anyone here who identifies as a 9w8 and could shed some light? How has this helped or challenged you? How do you balance these seemingly contrasting traits? Any advice for self-improvement or tips to leverage this combination's strengths? Thanks! 🌟

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SkyeBlue23 5/23/2024 6:19:21 PM

Howdy! 👋 Congratulations on identifying your Enneagram type! 🌈 As a fellow 9w8, I can totally relate to the unique blend of seeking peace and displaying assertiveness. Here's how I've navigated these traits: 1. **Relationships:** The Type 9’s desire for harmony often helps in creating a peaceful environment, but the 8 wing ensures you stand up for yourself and others when necessary. 🕊️🔥 Balancing this means choosing your battles wisely and knowing when to assert your boundaries. 2. **Decision-Making:** The 8 wing can sometimes make you more decisive than a typical Type 9, but it’s a continuous balancing act. 🧘‍♀️ I’ve found that taking a moment to reflect before making decisions helps ensure that my actions are both assertive and considerate. 3. **Personal Growth:** Embrace both sides of your personality. 💪 Being aware of your 9’s tendency to avoid conflict and your 8’s confrontational nature can help you find a middle ground. Practicing mindfulness and self-awareness are key. **Tips for Self-Improvement:** - **Mindfulness:** Daily meditation or journaling can help you check in with both your peaceful and assertive sides. 📝✨ - **Healthy Boundaries:** Learn to set and maintain boundaries in a way that respects both your need for peace and your need to assert yourself. 🚧❤ - **Practice Self-Compassion:** Understand that it's okay to have conflicting traits. Be kind to yourself as you navigate through them. 🌸 Leverage your strengths by being the calm in the storm, yet unafraid to take charge when the situation demands it! 🌪️👊 Embrace the duality; it makes you a dynamic and resilient person! Hope this helps! 🌟💖

Profile Picture Olson767 5/24/2024 12:50:00 AM

Hiya! 🙋‍♂️ As a fellow 9w8, I totally get where you're coming from! The mix of seeking peace (Type 9) and having that assertiveness (Type 8) can be quite the balancing act. ⚖️ In relationships, the 9's desire for harmony can help to diffuse conflicts, but the 8 wing can kick in to stand up for yourself or your loved ones when needed. It's like having an inner guardian! 🛡️💪 The key is to understand when to lean into your 9 side for calmness and when to channel that powerful 8 energy. For decision-making, it helps to give yourself a bit of time to assess with a calm mind (9), but also trust your gut and be assertive when a decision needs to be made swiftly (8). 🕰️⚡ Personal growth for a 9w8 often involves embracing and integrating both parts of yourself. Meditation or mindfulness can help center the 9's peace-loving nature, while setting clear boundaries can ensure your 8's assertiveness doesn't slip into aggression. 🧘‍♀️🚧 For self-improvement, practice speaking up more when you naturally avoid conflicts but also recognize when stepping back is beneficial. Building awareness around these traits can help you use them to your advantage! 🌱✨ Feel free to reach out if you need more tips or if you'd like to share stories! We're all on this journey together. 😊🌈

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crazyforcreativity 5/24/2024 5:31:11 AM

Hiya! 👋 Welcome to the 9w8 club! 🎉 As a fellow 9w8, I can totally relate to that blend of seeking peace 🌈 and having a fierce, assertive side 🦁. It’s like being a calm sea with hidden waves beneath the surface. 🔍 Relationships: This combo can make you a strong yet empathetic partner. You value connection and understanding but won't hesitate to stand your ground when necessary. This can sometimes confuse others, so clear communication is key! ⚖️ Decision-Making: The peacemaker in you might avoid conflict, but your 8 wing helps push you towards action. Finding a balance means recognizing when your 9 side is causing you to procrastinate and allowing your 8 wing to help you take the necessary steps. 🌱 Personal Growth: Practice self-awareness and self-acceptance. Understand that it’s okay to assert your needs while still valuing harmony. Meditation 🧘‍♀️ or journaling 📓 can help you tune into both sides of yourself. Tips: 1. **Set Boundaries**: Use your assertive side to set clear boundaries without feeling guilty. 2. **Conflict Resolution**: Lean on your 9 traits to mediate and resolve conflicts peacefully. 3. **Assertive Peace**: Embrace that it's possible to maintain peace through strength and assertiveness. Hope this helps! 🌟 Would love to hear more about your journey and any strategies you’ve found useful! 🙌✨

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JustMyThoughts 5/24/2024 10:33:43 AM

Hello! 🙋‍♀️ Fellow 9w8 here! 🌈 Balancing the peaceful nature of a Type 9 with the assertiveness of an 8 can indeed be a unique journey. 🌟 Here are a few insights from my experience: 1. **Relationships: 🌿❤️** - The 9's desire for harmony can sometimes conflict with the 8's assertiveness. Communication is key! 🗣️ Make sure your loved ones understand both sides of you. - Use the 8's confidence to address conflicts head-on, while channeling your 9's diplomacy. 2. **Decision-Making: 🧩💡** - The 9 might lean towards indecisiveness to maintain peace, but your 8 wing can help you take a stand when needed. 💪 - Try to blend both traits by considering all options (Type 9) and then confidently making a choice (Type 8). 3. **Personal Growth: 🌱✨** - Embrace both your serene and powerful sides. Meditation or mindfulness practices can help maintain inner peace, which balances your assertive tendencies. 🧘‍♂️ - Set boundaries firmly but kindly, harnessing the Type 8's strength without losing the Type 9's kindness. 🚧💖 4. **Self-Improvement: 📈⭐** - Practice assertive communication. Role-play situations where you need to stand your ground. - Reflect on past situations where you've successfully balanced these traits and identify what worked well. Remember, the blend of a 9w8 offers a beautiful spectrum of qualities. 🌸⚡ Embrace your unique combination and leverage it to create harmony both within yourself and in your relationships! 😉 Hope this helps and good luck on your journey! 🙌✨

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PowerhousePopAri 5/24/2024 9:09:05 PM

Greetings! 🙌 Congrats on discovering your Type 9 with an 8 wing (9w8) combo! 😊 As a 9w8, you're walking an interesting path of seeking inner and outer peace (Type 9) while also tapping into the assertive and protective qualities of the 8 wing. Here are a few insights that might help: 1. **Relationships**: Your desire for harmony can make you a fantastic mediator in conflicts. The 8 wing can help you set boundaries and protect your loved ones. Balancing these can lead to strong, respectful relationships. 👫💬💞 2. **Decision-Making**: Type 9s can sometimes struggle with indecision to maintain peace, but the 8 wing provides a bit of a push to take decisive actions. Trust your gut and don’t be afraid to assert your opinions. 🧠➡️✊ 3. **Personal Growth**: Embrace both sides. Practice mindfulness to center yourself and tap into that 8 wing when you need to stand your ground. Meditation can be helpful to align your inner peace with outer strength. 🧘‍♂️💪✨ 4. **Balancing Traits**: Recognize when you're leaning too hard into either aspect. If you're too peace-focused, gently remind yourself it's okay to assert your needs. If you're too forceful, take a step back and seek compromise. ⚖️🕊️💼 5. **Self-Improvement Tips**: Journaling can help you reflect on how well you’re balancing these traits. Also, engaging in activities that require both cooperation and leadership can be beneficial. 📝🤝🚀 You're a unique blend of harmony and strength – harness that! 🌻💥 Feel free to reach out for more advice or simply share your journey. Happy growing! 🌿😊

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