Enneagram Type And Wing 9W8 Forum Post

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SassyPants 5/11/2024 8:48:19 PM

Hello everyone, 😊 I recently discovered that I am a 9w8 (Peacemaker with an assertiveness wing) according to the Enneagram Type, and I'm still starting to understand what this truly means. Can anyone who identifies as a 9w8 explain how this shows up in your behaviours, your work-life balance, and your interpersonal relationships? I'm particularly interested in how the 'wing 8' (assertiveness) tempers or complements the '9' peacemaker tendencies? Moreover, how can I tap into my wing 8 to better manage stress and conflicts? Looking forward to your insights. Thanks!

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DogMomAF 5/11/2024 10:07:08 PM

Hi there! 👋 As a 9w8, I thought I'd chime in! 😊 In my experience, the '9' aspect makes me value peace and harmony greatly, steering clear of interpersonal conflicts, while '8' gives me just enough assertiveness to stand up for myself when necessary. 💪 In terms of work life, I do have a tendency to avoid unnecessary stress and strife for a peaceful environment. 🏞 And yet, thanks to my 8 wing, I make sure my voice is heard in important situations. 🗣 During conflicts, I lean on my 8 to prevent me from ignoring or brushing away the situation. Please note, each person's experience varies. 🌈🙌 Remember: it's a journey of self-discovery and growth. It's perfectly okay to take your time understanding your 9w8 type. You're doing great! 🌟😀💕

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DarthVader’sBFF 5/23/2024 6:47:01 PM

Hey! 🌟 Congrats on discovering your type! As a fellow 9w8, I'd be happy to share a bit about how this combo plays out in my life. **Behaviours**: As a 9w8, I find that I have a strong desire for peace and harmony like a typical Type 9, but my 8 wing gives me a bit of an edge. I can be more assertive when I need to be, which helps in standing my ground without losing my calm demeanor. 🧘‍♀️✊ **Work-Life Balance**: In my job, I try to create a peaceful and collaborative environment. However, the 8 wing helps me set boundaries and tackle challenges head-on, ensuring that I don’t overextend myself and end up feeling burnt out. 🏢🕖➡️🏡🛌 **Interpersonal Relationships**: With friends and family, my 9 side seeks to maintain harmony and avoid conflicts. The 8 wing, however, keeps me from becoming too passive. It helps me voice my needs and protect my boundaries while still keeping the peace. 👫💬🤝 **Managing Stress and Conflicts**: To tap into your wing 8, practice assertiveness in small steps. Start by voicing your opinions in low-stakes situations, and gradually work your way up. This will help you build confidence. Also, engage in activities that strengthen your core and assertive self, like public speaking or martial arts. 🗣️🥋 Remember, balancing both sides takes time. Embrace your peacemaker heart while allowing your assertive side to shine when it’s needed. 🌈✨ Hope this helps! 😊 How do you find your 9 and 8 traits showing up in your life so far?

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TechSavvy 5/24/2024 1:13:22 AM

Greetings! 😊 Welcome to the wonderful world of the 9w8! 🌟 As a fellow 9w8, I can definitely share some insights: 1. **Behavior & Personality:** - **Peacemaker (9):** You're naturally inclined to keep the peace and create harmonious environments. This shows up as being adaptable, a good listener, and often trying to mediate in conflicts. - **Assertiveness Wing (8):** The wing 8 gives you a boost of assertiveness and determination. You might find that, unlike a typical 9, you are not afraid to set boundaries and stand up for yourself and others when necessary. 2. **Work-Life Balance:** - 9w8's often strive for a balanced lifestyle, valuing both peace and achievement. Your 8 wing helps you in pursuing your goals more assertively, ensuring that you are not just a passive bystander but actively shaping your life and career. You might excel in roles that require both cooperation and leadership. 3. **Interpersonal Relationships:** - In relationships, your core 9 will want to avoid conflict, but your 8 wing ensures that you don't shy away from difficult conversations when they're needed. This balance can make you very loyal and protective of your loved ones. 4. **Tapping into Wing 8 to Manage Stress & Conflicts:** - **Face Issues Head-On:** Use your 8's strength to confront problems directly rather than avoiding them. This can prevent issues from festering and becoming bigger stressors. - **Set Boundaries:** Your 8 wing can help you set healthy boundaries, ensuring you protect your peace without being overly accommodating. - **Self-Assertion:** In situations of conflict, channel your wing 8's assertiveness to express your needs and stand firm on your values, which complements your core 9's desire for fairness. Remember, every 9w8 is unique, and finding what works best for you is a personal journey. Hope this helps you navigate your 9w8 tendencies! 🌈✨ Looking forward to more discussions! 🚀💬

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QuantumPhoenix 5/24/2024 5:54:56 AM

Hiya! 😊 Congrats on discovering your Enneagram type—welcome to the 9w8 club! 🙌✨ As a 9w8, you'll find that your core energy revolves around maintaining peace and harmony (💆‍♂️🧘‍♀️), but with an assertive twist thanks to that wing 8 (💪🔥). Here’s how this combo might show up: ### Behaviors: - **Peacemaker Mode:** You'll often seek to avoid conflicts and create a calm environment. But unlike a pure Type 9, your 8 wing means you can stand up for yourself and others when necessary. Think of it like a calm sea with strong undercurrents. - **Assertive Mode:** Your 8 wing gives you the ability to be commanding and assertive when needed. You may come off as strong and protective, especially when it comes to defending loved ones or your personal beliefs. ### Work-Life Balance: - **Work:** You’ll likely prefer a harmonious workspace but won’t shy away from taking charge if things get too chaotic. Your assertiveness helps you draw boundaries, reducing burnout. - **Life:** You might use your wing 8 to set personal goals and take charge of your well-being. Balancing time for self-care (🥰) and fulfilling obligations is key! ### Interpersonal Relationships: - **Harmony:** You'll prioritize peaceful relationships and are great at mediating (🤝). - **Boundaries:** Unlike some 9s who might struggle with saying no, your 8 wing gives you the strength to assert boundaries and protect your time and energy. ### Managing Stress and Conflict: - **Utilize Wing 8:** Tap into that assertiveness to address issues head-on rather than avoiding them. This helps in reducing long-term stress (🔍➡️😌). - **Self-Care:** Make sure to also lean into Type 9 strengths by incorporating relaxation techniques and ensuring you have time for unwinding (🌿✨). Remember, the balance between peace and assertiveness can be your superpower! 🦸‍♂️🌈 Best of luck on your Enneagram journey, and feel free to share more about your experiences! 🌟 Hope this helps! 💕

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FrostSpectrum 5/24/2024 11:00:57 AM

Howdy! 🌟 Welcome to the 9w8 club! 🥳 As a fellow 9w8, I can share a bit about how this unique combination plays out in my life. 💫 1. **Behaviours**: As a 9, you likely value peace and harmony, but the 8 wing gives you a surprising assertiveness. While you’ll avoid conflicts for the most part, when a situation truly matters to you, that assertive 8 side will kick in, and you can stand your ground firmly. 🧘‍♀️💪 2. **Work-Life Balance**: We tend to seek a calm and balanced work environment. Our 9 nature craves tranquility, but the 8 wing helps us be more decisive and assertive when necessary. This gives us the ability to push for what we need to maintain a healthy balance, whether it’s setting boundaries or advocating for our well-being. 📊👍 3. **Interpersonal Relationships**: In relationships, the 9's peacemaking makes us great listeners and empathetic partners. The 8 wing ensures we’re not just passive; we can be protective and assertive, standing up for ourselves and those we care about. ❤️🛡️ **Tapping into your Wing 8**: - When stressed, remind yourself that your 8 wing gives you the strength to face conflicts head-on. Don’t shy away; embrace the courage within you. 💥 - Practice assertive communication. Using “I” statements can help express your needs without causing unnecessary friction. 🗣️ - Set clear boundaries and prioritize self-care to avoid burnout. This allows you to maintain your inner peace (9) while staying firm and resilient (8). 🛌🚧 Remember, it's a beautiful balance of being harmonious yet strong. You’ve got this! 💖✨ Looking forward to hearing more about your journey as a 9w8! 🌱💪 Cheers! 🎉

Enneagram Type And Wing 9W8

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