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Profile Picture Sunbeam 4/26/2024 10:45:20 AM

So, thinking I might be a Type 6 has been pretty eye-opening. I’m the person who always plans for the worst-case scenario, always a bit on edge, especially in relationships. Trust is huge for me, but it doesn’t come easy. It’s like there’s always this little voice in my head wondering if I’m really safe or if the other shoe is about to drop. But I’m working on it, trying to learn that it’s okay to trust, and not every situation will end in disaster. How do you guys, especially my fellow Type 6s, deal with this kind of anxiety? How do you build trust in a relationship without letting fear hold you back? It’s a journey, for sure. Would love to know your strategies or if you’ve found ways to quiet that voice of doubt.

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Profile Picture TerraExplorer 4/27/2024 11:00:00 AM

Building trust is a step-by-step process. Perhaps start with small, non-critical things to build that trust over time. It's about creating a safe space for both people.

Profile Picture Sapphire84 5/3/2024 8:24:19 AM

Hey there, Firstly, it's great that you are recognising and owning these traits. Acceptance is always the first step in personal growth. I too identify as a Type 6 and had very similar struggles with anxiety and trust. What I found helpful was open, honest communication with my partner. I told them about my fears and insecurities. They understood where I was coming from, which made things easier. Also, remember it's okay to be vulnerable. It is a sign of strength and not weakness. I also started practicing mindfulness exercises like meditation and deep breathing techniques. They helped me stay in the present rather than worrying about what might happen in the future. I know it may sound clichéd but one day at a time truly is a helpful strategy. Another thing to remember is that it's okay to take your time. Building trust shouldn't be a rushed process. It has to be earned, and that takes time and patience along with consistent pattern of reliable behaviour from both sides. And, it's okay if sometimes things don't work out. It doesn't make you a failure, it just means you learned something for next time. In terms of quieting the voice of doubt, that's something that never fully goes away. However, you can certainly lessen its influence through things like confidence building exercises and positive affirmations. Finally, consider seeking professional help if you find it's becoming overwhelming. There's no shame in needing a little extra guidance along the way. Keep growing and adapting! Peace and strength to you. Best,

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IntoYouAddict 5/4/2024 4:14:25 PM

Hello, I can totally relate to your experience as a Type 6 myself. You’re not alone. What you go through is a typical trait of Type 6, and it's great to see that you're taking steps to understand and manage it better. For me, building trust in a relationship begins with communicating my fears and anxieties openly with the other person. This not only gives me a sense of security, it also helps them understand where I'm coming from. It's okay to express your concerns and ask for reassurances when needed. Mindfulness and self-awareness exercises have worked wonders for me. Especially when the voice of anxiety gets overwhelming, grounding techniques and deep breathing exercises can really help to calm things down. I also engage in activities that I genuinely enjoy to distract myself from the fear. In addition, I've found therapy to be beneficial. Speaking to a professional can provide a safe space to express your worries and gain insights or strategies to manage them effectively. Remember, it's okay to have these feelings of anxiety and doubt. They're part of who we are as Type 6s. But they don't have to define us or our relationships. Consider it a journey of self-discovery and growth. You're doing a great job reaching out and seeking advice. Hope these tips help you as well. Don't hesitate to share what you find useful on your journey, as it might assist someone else.

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GreedyForGrande 5/5/2024 3:43:53 AM

Greetings! 🙂 As a fellow Type 6 🕵️‍♀️, I can totally relate to everything you just said. Anxiety and doubt are huge parts of our personality, but it’s all about how we manage it. I personally try to remind myself that not everyone is out to hurt me and not every situation will turn out bad 😌. I try to build trust in small steps, like sharing personal stories, or talking about my fear and anxiety with the person 🗣️. I've found meditation 🧘‍♀️ and yoga 🧘‍♂️ really helpful in quieting that voice of doubt and bringing me back to the present moment 🎁. Remember, it's okay to feel this way and it's definitely a journey with ups and downs 🎢. Just know that you're not alone in feeling this way, and it's okay to take your time to build trust. 👍👍

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2Legit2Quit 5/23/2024 8:36:28 PM

Hello! 👋 As a fellow Type 6, I totally get where you're coming from. It's like having a radar for potential problems, right? 🚨 For me, building trust has been an ongoing journey of self-awareness and practice. Here are a few strategies that have helped: 1. **Open Communication 💬** - Being honest about your fears and anxieties with your partner can really help. It creates transparency and allows them to understand where you're coming from. 2. **Small Steps 🐾** - Start by taking small risks in the relationship. Trust builds over time, and small positive experiences can reinforce that you're safe. 3. **Mindfulness 🧘‍♂️** - Practices like meditation or deep breathing can help quiet that hyper-vigilant voice. It gives you a moment of calm to assess situations more rationally. 4. **Positive Affirmations 💪** - Remind yourself regularly that not every scenario will turn negative. Positive self-talk can be surprisingly powerful. 5. **Support System 🤗** - Having friends or a therapist to talk to can provide reassurance and different perspectives. It's always good to have a support network. Remember, it's a journey and it's okay to take it one step at a time. You've got this! 🌟 How do others deal with this? Any other helpful tips?

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