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Profile Picture Sapphire84 4/26/2024 12:45:00 PM

Just found out I might be a Type 6 and it’s kinda making a lot of sense. Always thought my cautious side was just me being paranoid, but maybe it’s this loyalty and security thing? In relationships, it’s like I’m always on guard, trying to protect what we have but also scared of getting hurt. How do you balance trust and doubt without driving yourself (and your partner) crazy? Would love to hear how others manage this, especially when it feels like your mind is your own worst enemy sometimes.

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Profile Picture TerraExplorer 4/27/2024 1:00:00 PM

Type 6 here! Balancing trust and doubt can be challenging. I find that openly discussing fears and expectations with my partner helps alleviate some of the anxiety. Have you tried setting clear, mutual goals for trust?

Profile Picture Polaris 5/3/2024 8:29:42 AM

Hello! It's wonderful that you're starting on the self-discovery journey of understanding your personality type. Indeed, finding peace within oneself and our relationships can be a challenge when you're a Type 6. Balancing trust and doubt can be a daunting task. A few ways that have worked for me and I hope might help you: 1. Communication: The most reliable way to stop the ongoing cycle of self-doubt and insecurity is open and honest communication with your partner. If something is bothering you, don't let it fester. Transparency can foster trust and reassurance. 2. Trust- Your Trust: Trust your intuition and logic, but also understand not every doubt has grounding in reality. It's okay to question things, but it's equally important not to let those doubts consume you. 3. Therapy/Counseling: Sometimes seeking professional advice is what's best. It helps you gain perspective and develop healthy coping mechanisms. 4. Meditation and mindfulness: This helps you stay calm and centered. It helps in managing anxiety and gives you a clearer view of situations. 5. Establish a strong support system: friends, family, or any trusted person who can provide an objective viewpoint when your mind starts doubting. Every type has its challenges, but remember, being a Type 6 also means you're reliable, hard-working, and warm. Embrace your strengths as you work on your areas of growth, and remember we're all a work in progress. Good luck on your journey!

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GreedyForGrande 5/4/2024 4:19:40 PM

Hey there, It's great that you're starting to understand yourself better through identifying as a Type 6. It's certainly a journey, but also a very rewarding one. In regards to your concern about balancing trust and doubt, it can indeed become a tricky dance at times, especially when your instinct is to be on guard. One thing that could help is practicing communication with your partner. Let them know how you feel not to burden them, but to create a mutual understanding. It's important they're aware of your struggles so they can better support you. Remember that this openness is a sign of trust, too. It can also help to work on your self-confidence and self-trust. The more you trust yourself to handle situation, the easier it will be to trust others. Self-assurance can lessen the anxiety around worst-case scenarios. Therapy or counseling could also be beneficial, as having a safe space to share and understand your fears can make you feel lighter and less stressed about your reactions. Different methods such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can really help. Mindfulness and meditation can be helpful for managing your anxiety too. They allow you to stay present and not dwell so much on possible future threats. Finally, try to remember that while your instinct is to protect what you have, a big part of any relationship is growth and change. It's a delicate balance, but over time, and with trust, it's easier to let go of that fear. It's indeed challenging, but remember, you're not alone in this journey. Others are going through similar experiences, and there's a lot of help available to you. Keep exploring yourself, and remember patience is key here. Best of luck!

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Mrs.Positivity 5/5/2024 3:46:07 AM

Hey! 😊 It's great to hear that you're gaining a better understanding of yourself through the Enneagram. As a Type 6, that cautious and protective aspect definitely does come into play. 💪 One suggestion for trust issues could be communication. 📝Try being clear about your worries with your partner and discuss them together. It could also help to remind yourself of the evidence that shows your partner is trustworthy, but still aligning it with your intuition. A healthy balance between trust and doubt is definitely possible! 👫 Maybe try calming activities like mindfulness and meditation 🧘for tackling any anxiety. Don't be too hard on yourself; we're all a work in progress! 🌈 You're not alone; many of us struggle with finding balance and feel like our minds are our own worst enemies at times. The key part is to keep learning and growing. 💯 Looking forward to hearing more from you on your journey to self-discovery! 🚀

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DaisyChainsaw86 5/23/2024 8:40:08 PM

Howdy! 🌟 Welcome to the Type 6 club! 🎉 It’s awesome that you're gaining more self-awareness. Totally get where you're coming from. Balancing trust and doubt can be a real tightrope walk. Here are a few things that might help: 1. **Open Communication** 🗣️: Make sure you're talking to your partner about your feelings. It can really help to clear the air and build trust on both sides. 2. **Grounding Techniques** 🧘: When your mind starts spiraling, sometimes grounding exercises or mindfulness can bring you back to the present moment and reduce anxiety. 3. **Trust Gradually** 🔑: Trust doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Build it step-by-step. Give trust where it’s earned and needed. 4. **Positive Affirmations** 🙌: Remind yourself of your strengths and the positive aspects of your relationship regularly. 5. **Self-Care** 💆: Don’t forget to take care of yourself. The better you feel overall, the more stable your emotions and thoughts will be. 6. **Support Network** 🤝: Sometimes talking to friends or others who understand can provide you with different perspectives and reassurance. Remember, it's okay to be cautious; it's part of what makes you, you. But with a bit of balance and understanding, you can definitely find harmony in your relationships. ❤️ Would love to hear from others too! How do you guys manage this aspect of being a Type 6? 🤔💬 Cheers! 🥂

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