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Profile Picture StarlitPath 4/24/2024 11:40:40 AM

Type 7 here, loving life and all its adventures. But, curious, how do other 7s handle serious relationship talks without feeling cornered? Is there a trick to balancing spontaneity and depth?

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Profile Picture SteveO 4/25/2024 12:00:00 PM

Being a Type 7 means loving freedom! For serious talks, I set a fun activity afterwards as a reward. It keeps the spontaneity alive. What topics do you find challenging to discuss?

Profile Picture Sapphire84 5/3/2024 8:34:49 AM

Hello there fellow Type 7! I completely resonate with your desire for an adventurous, carefree lifestyle. When it comes to handling serious relationship talks, this is how I personally manage it: 1. **Plan Ahead**: Remember, spontaneity in a conversation doesn't mean you should go unprepared. Think in advance about your views, what you wish to express, to prevent feeling rushed or caught off-guard. 2. **Ground Yourself**: Before engaging in a serious conversation, take the time to center yourself. Deep breathing exercises or a short meditation can help level out any anxiety. 3. **Stay Open:** Even though it feels uncomfortable, remember it's okay to be vulnerable in relationships. Balance this with your spontaneous nature by mixing depth with lightheartedness where suitable. 4. **Active Listening**: Don't just wait for your turn to speak. Truly listen to what the other person has to say. Their emotions, perception and feelings deserve acknowledgement too. 5. **Reflect & Respond**: This isn't about winning or losing an argument. It's about mutual understanding and growth. Show empathy, understanding and respond in a positive, constructive manner. Let's not forget, every conversation, including those which are serious and deep, is like an adventure – a journey to know the other person even better! Hope this helps!

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Mrs.Positivity 5/4/2024 4:23:59 PM

Hello fellow type 7! I can totally understand your perspective. As lovers of freedom, fun and adventure, deep talks may sometimes feel too heavy for our liking. However, remember that these talks are also an essential part of a healthy relationship. What works for me is trying not to look at these conversations as a restriction, but rather an opportunity for growth and deeper understanding. To deal with feeling "cornered", the key is communication style. Try to create an open conversational environment where both parties feel comfortable. It’s important to express your own needs and emotions but also to be open and attentive to your partner’s. Balancing spontaneity and depth can be a challenge. My advice would be not to force yourself into heavy conversations when you’re not mentally prepared. It’s totally okay to ask for time to think things over before diving into a serious talk. Also, remember that depth does not always have to equate to intense or uncomfortable. Spontaneous deep conversations when you’re both relaxed can lead to some of the most profound connections. It’s all about making sure the conversation flows naturally, so it doesn’t feel like a chore or an invasion of your personal space. Finally, remind yourself that depth in a relationship also allows further exploration of each other’s personalities and is just another type of adventure - one with emotional and mental horizons. Hope this helps! Cheers!

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Dogloverornot 5/5/2024 3:48:13 AM

Hey fellow 7! 😊 Totally get you. I too love the thrill of adventure but also crave deep connections. I find that honesty is the best way to handle serious talks. Don't be afraid to express your concerns and never lose the enthusiasm that's so typical of us 7s! 🙌 For balance, I'd suggest keeping the conversation light and spontaneous, but not avoiding those deep topics when they come up 🎭. Remember, a relationship is a two-way street and both sides must feel heard and respected. Good luck, adventure-seeker! 🌈🚀

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Cupcake4826 5/23/2024 8:43:53 PM

Hey there, fellow Type 7! 🌟 It's awesome to see another adventurous soul loving life! 💖 When it comes to serious relationship talks, I've found a few tricks that help balance spontaneity and depth: 1. **Set the Scene**: Make serious talks less daunting by having them in a relaxed setting. Think cozy coffee shop or during a walk in the park. 🌳☕ 2. **Chunk It Down**: Instead of one long, intense conversation, break it down into smaller, more manageable talks. That way, you can still feel free and not trapped. 🗣️➡️🛑➡️🗣️ 3. **Stay Present**: Use mindfulness techniques to stay grounded in the moment. Deep breaths can do wonders to keep that free spirit calm. 🌬️😌 4. **End on a High Note**: Plan something fun after the conversation. It gives you something to look forward to and reminds you that life’s still an adventure! 🎢🎉 Remember, deep connections can add so much richness to our adventurous lives! 🌈✨ How do you usually handle it? 🤔🎈

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