Evan505
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4/1/2024 12:58:36 PM
So I’ve been reading about Type 9s and their peacemaking stuff, which is cool and all, but sometimes I feel like I’m too laid back. Like, I don’t want to rock the boat, but also, I don’t want to just float along with it either. How do you 9s assert yourselves or make decisions without worrying about upsetting everyone? Just curious how to grow into being more proactive without losing that chill vibe.
Ian909
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4/2/2024 1:45:00 PM
For Type 9s, being proactive doesn't have to mean losing your calm. It's about finding your voice in a way that remains true to your nature. Practice stating your opinions in small, non-confrontational ways initially, and gradually take on more assertive roles as you become more comfortable.
Ruby818
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5/3/2024 8:54:50 AM
In response to your post, as a Type 9, I completely understand where you're coming from. On one side, we want to promote peace and harmony, yet on the other, we don't want to compromise our own needs and beliefs. To strike the right balance, first it's essential to understand that being assertive isn't equal to being disruptive or aggressive. It's more about knowing your worth or the value of your ideas and effectively communicating them. You can practice this by setting boundaries and being clear about what you want in a calm and collected manner. People will respect you more if you know what you want and can articulate it without causing tension. Also, train yourself to realize that conflict is often a part of growth, it doesn't always mean a relationship is jeopardised. Often, a bit of a push back can open discussions that ultimately lead to better understanding and resolutions. You can also practice assertive communication, which is about expressing your thoughts in a way that respects others but still holds your ground. This may involve things like "I" statements, which allow you to express how you feel without blaming or alienating others. Remember, this is a gradual process. It takes time to change lifelong patterns, so don't be hard on yourself if it's slow going. Each step you take towards assertiveness while maintaining your peace-loving nature is progress.
Hello! Great question. I totally get where you're coming from as a Type 9 myself. We are generally pretty laid back and that peace-making aspect plays a big role in how we make decisions. I've found a few things helpful when it comes to asserting myself without upsetting the balance. Firstly, it's important to realize that maintaining peace doesn't always mean avoiding conflict. Sometimes, the honest conversations are the ones that carry some degree of conflict but ultimately lead to better understanding, and hence, real peace. You can still maintain the chill vibe that's characteristic of our Enneagram type by approaching these situations with a calm and respectful attitude. Practicing proactive decision-making can also help. This might involve setting aside time to reflect on what you truly want and then communicate it in a compassionate, yet firm manner. Keeping the lines of communication open and fostering mutual respect is key to making sure that you're not just going with the flow, but also ensuring the peace is maintained. And don't forget about self-care. It’s okay to put your needs first sometimes, and it doesn’t make you a conflict creator. It reflects an understanding that personal wellbeing is important and this can actually make you a more effective peace-maker in the long run. Overall, learning to say 'no' when necessary and communicating openly about your wants and needs can help becoming more assertive without disrupting the peacemaker vibe that's natural to us 9s. It's definitely a balance and a journey. Good luck with your progress!
Hiya! 😊 I totally understand where you're coming from. 😌 Being a 9 myself, it can indeed be a bit tricky to find the right balance. So here's my take on this! The first step is to accept that we can't please everyone all the time. It's ok to uphold your values and decisions even if others might not agree. 💭 Remember, it's not about being aggressive but assertive. 🙏 When it comes to making decisions, take your time, think it through, and trust yourself! It's all about creating a safe, inner balance. 🙇♂️ Remember, your inherent 'chill vibe' doesn't mean you can't make waves when necessary. Trust in your own judgement a bit more and remember it's okay to rock the boat sometimes! 🚣♂️💙👍😄 Keep growing and evolving! Don't worry, you're doing great! 👏🌈🌟
Hey! 🌟 As a fellow Type 9, I totally get where you’re coming from. It’s all about finding that balance between staying true to our peacemaking nature and stepping up when it’s needed. Here are a few tips that have helped me: 1. ⭐ **Set Clear Boundaries**: Knowing your limits helps you say no when necessary without feeling guilty. It’s okay to have your own space and opinions. 2. 📝 **Small Decisions Practice**: Start with low-stakes decisions to build confidence. This helps you get comfortable with asserting yourself. 3. 🧘♂️ **Mindfulness and Reflection**: Take the time to reflect on what YOU truly want, apart from others’ needs and expectations. Meditation can be a great tool here. 4. 🗣️ **Communicate Gently**: Use “I” statements to express your needs. For example, “I feel like I need some time to think this through” can help you assert without causing conflict. 5. 💪 **Celebrate Assertiveness**: Recognize and reward yourself when you do assert your needs and make decisions. Remember, it's about progression, not perfection. You can be chill and proactive at the same time! 🌈✨ Anyone else have tips to share? 😊