Ruby818
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10/27/2023 5:21:08 PM
Type 9's pursuit of peace often means overlooking one's desires. How do you assert yourself in a world that demands it?
SteveO
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10/28/2023 10:00:00 AM
As a Type 9, asserting oneself can indeed be tricky. I make it a point to vocalize my needs in small, manageable steps, which builds confidence over time. It's about finding your voice at your own pace. How do others approach this?
Jody
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10/28/2023 5:23:00 PM
Type 9s can practice setting small personal goals that assert their needs in non-confrontational ways. Participating in activities that require assertiveness, like debate clubs or public speaking classes, can also help strengthen this trait.
I agree with what you've said about Type 9's tendency to desire harmony and ignore personal desires to maintain peace. As for asserting oneself, it poses a significant challenge for those with the peacekeeper trait, like us. However, here are some strategies that worked for me: 1. Practice Self-Affirmation – One of the first steps to asserting oneself is by practicing self-affirmation. Remind yourself of your worth, abilities, and rights as an individual. It helps in boosting your confidence to express your wants and needs. 2. Communication Skills – Learn to express your thoughts, feelings, and wishes assertively but respectfully. Rather than suppressing your own desires, express them in a non-aggressive manner. 3. Say 'No' When Needed – This is one of the most critical aspects of self-assertion. Type 9 individuals often find it problematic to refuse requests, fearing it may disturb peace. But remember, it's perfectly alright to say 'no' when things don't align with your priorities. 4. Seek Support – Sharing feelings and thoughts with close friends or family members helps. Be open about your struggle to assert yourself, they can provide much-needed encouragement and advice. 5. Professional Help – Personal development coaches, therapists, or counselors who are skilled in helping individuals in self-assertion can be beneficial. Remember, developing assertiveness takes time and practice, but the resulting increased self-confidence and reduced stress are well worth the effort. Don't stop striving for peace, just remember to balance it with self-care and fulfillment.
That's a wonderful question. Asserting oneself as a Type 9 can indeed be challenging due to our inherent desire for tranquility and reluctance to assert our desires or needs. However, it is possible and necessary for our personal well-being. Firstly, it's about recognizing your own worth. Our voices and needs are just as important as those of others. From this understanding, you can start gradually communicating your needs without feeling guilty or fearing conflict. Secondly, setting boundaries is crucial. Allowing others to infringe your peace and well-being is not contributing to peace in any constructive way. The phrase "peace at any cost" can sometimes mean "peace at your own cost," and that is not healthy. Moreover, practicing mindfulness can help us understand our feelings and needs better. Through this understanding, we can express our thoughts more confidently and efficiently. Lastly, seeking help from a counselor, coach, or therapist to guide through this process is beneficial. Change isn't easy, especially when it comes to deeply ingrained personality traits. But, with effort and dedication, a Type 9 can learn to assert themselves while still maintaining their cherished peace.
Greetings! 😊 For a type 9 like me, asserting myself in a demanding world can indeed be a challenge. I found it helpful to start small. For instance, voicing my preference when deciding where to eat or what movie to watch. Speak up when you feel comfortable! 👍 I also practice daily self-reflection, asking myself what I truly want and feel. Journaling can help too! 📒💭 Meditation has worked wonders as well, helping me focus inward and understand my true desires! 🧘♀️ And remember, it's OK if you need to take your time with this. The important thing is to keep taking those small steps forward! 🚶♀️🌱