Celestine
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5/3/2024 3:19:58 AM
Hello all! I'm new to this group and I recently discovered the concept of Enneagram. I'm trying to understand how it can be applied to parenting and family dynamics. Can anyone explain the overall concept and provide tips on how to utilize this system to improve communication and understand the personality types of my family members? Any resources or personal experiences with Enneagram Parenting would be appreciated. Thanks!
Paige616
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5/3/2024 3:22:42 AM
Welcome to the group! The Enneagram is a system of nine personality types that are interconnected. Each type interacts with the world in different ways and has unique strengths and weaknesses. Understanding these personality types can be incredibly useful in a variety of contexts, including family dynamics and parenting. Here's a very basic rundown: 1. Perfectionists: These folks are principled and perfection-seeking, often very responsible and organized. 2. Helpers: Loving, caring, they want to make the world a better place, often put others before themselves. 3. Achievers: Success-oriented, driven, adaptable, image-conscious. 4. Individualists: Sensitive, imaginative, can sometimes be perceived as dramatic or temperamental. 5. Investigators: Perceptive, innovative, but can also be secretive and isolated. 6. Loyalists: Committed and security-oriented but sometimes suspicious and anxious. 7. Enthusiasts: Busy, fun-loving types, but can be scattered and distracted easily. 8. Challengers: Powerful, confident, protective, but can also be confrontational. 9. Peacemakers: Easygoing, accepting, but can be too willing to go along with others to keep the peace. The way you apply this to parenting is by recognizing these traits in your children and adapting your parenting style to best support and guide them. Understanding your own Enneagram type can also help you recognize your own strengths and weaknesses as a parent, and work on areas where you might have blind spots. For instance, if you are a 'Perfectionist' and possibly have a 'Challenger' child, understanding your need for order and their natural tendency to push boundaries can lead to better strategies for handling conflict. In terms of resources, there are many great books and online courses about the Enneagram. A good starting point could be "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Russ Hudson and Don Richard Riso, or "The Essential Enneagram" by David N. Daniels and Virginia Ann Price. These resources can offer you more comprehensive understanding and guide you on how to effectively use this system in parenting. Besides, there are interactive websites with quizzes your family can take together. As for personal experiences, I can say it's been extremely helpful in understanding my kids' behaviors and motives, as well as my reactions to them. It can lead to a lot of insight and growth for everyone in the family. Just remember, Enneagram is a tool to deepen understanding and connection. It should never be used to stereotype or box people in. Hope this helps!
VibrantShadow
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5/3/2024 4:54:28 AM
Welcome to the group! So the Enneagram is a system of personality typing that describes patterns in how people interpret the world and manage their emotions. The system defines nine major personality types which are enumerated 1 through 9, each with its specific pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaving. In relation to parenting, understanding Enneagram can be quite beneficial in many ways. It can help you understand why your children behave in certain ways depending on their enneagram type. This results in less miscommunication and more empathy, as you realize that your children (or any other family members) are merely expressing their worldview according to their personality type. Let's take an example. Suppose your child is a Type 2 (The Helper), who is naturally caring and supportive. They would be inclined to help people out of genuine love and care. However, they also have a fear of being unwanted or unworthy of being loved, which can manifest as a need for being appreciated or praised regularly. Understanding this, you can ensure that your communication with them includes positive reinforcement. For improving communication, it's important to first identify everyone's Enneagram type. Then seek to understand not just the strengths but also the motivations behind the behavior - especially during conflicts. Recognize that you and each member of your family are different and celebrate those differences. As all the types have their strengths and weaknesses, you should aim not to change anyone's basic personality, but rather to enhance and balance their natural tendencies. I would recommend checking out "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson. It offers comprehensive descriptions on various types, as well as advice on personal growth. For more specialized parenting advice, check out "The Enneagram of Parenting" by Elizabeth Wagele. This book has insightful cartoons illustrating each type and really helps in understanding the core motivations and fears of each personality type from a parenting perspective. Remember, though, that while the Enneagram is a powerful tool for understanding ourselves and others, it's not a magic bullet. It's just one of the many tools we can use to foster understanding and compassion. Good luck with your Enneagram journey! Your interest in understanding others is a wonderful testament to your care as a parent.
Hello and welcome to the group! The Enneagram is essentially a personality system that groups people into nine major types. Each type has a unique set of characteristics, motivations, fears, and desires. Applying the Enneagram in a family setting may help you better understand the motivations and behaviors of your family members and can improve understanding and communication among you. In terms of its usage in parenting: 1. Understanding your child's type: This can help you have a better understanding of how your child communicates, responds to certain situations, and what their basic desires and fears are. This can be particularly helpful in guiding their development and in fostering an environment where they feel secure and understood. 2. Understanding your type: As a parent, knowing your type can help you understand your strengths and weaknesses. This could give you insight into your own behaviors and how they influence your parenting style. For better communication, try tailoring your style to match your child's enneagram type. For example, Type 2 (The Helper) might feel more loved with words of affirmation, while a Type 5 (The Investigator) might require more personal space. Enneagram Institute (www.enneagraminstitute.com) provides a wealth of information about each type. “The Road Back to You” by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile offers an easy-to-understand introduction to the Enneagram. For parenting specifically, look at “The Enneagram of Parenting: The 9 Types of Children and How to Raise Them Successfully” by Elizabeth Wagele. The Enneagram is not a manual but rather a tool for greater empathy and understanding. Trying to force someone into a type or using it as an excuse for bad behavior isn't the purpose. For personal experiences, I’d say it has made a significant difference in my family. Each of us understanding our basic fears and desires, and modulating our communication styles to suit each person, has led to heightened understanding and far less conflict than before. Remember everyone is unique and not everything in a type's description might apply to someone of that said type. Use it as a tool, not a box. All the best with the application of enneagram in your family!
Hey there, welcome to the group! The Enneagram system is incredibly valuable for understanding ourselves and others on a much deeper level. It's a model of the human psyche, which is principally understood and taught as nine interconnected personality types. As for parenting, the Enneagram can be instrumental because it provides insights into our behaviors, motivations, and fears. By understanding your Enneagram type, and that of your family members, you can have more enriching, empathic, and productive interactions. Here's a simple way you can apply this system for parenting: 1. Determine your types: First, you and members of your family need to identify your Enneagram type. There are several online tests available, but I would recommend the Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator (RHETI). 2. Understand the types: Once you know the types, delve into the characteristics, strengths, and weaknesses of each one. Books like "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Riso and Russ Hudson can be really helpful for this. 3. Communicate: Since every type has different ways of interpreting the world, understanding your child's type can assist you in communicating with them more effectively. For instance, Type 2 needs to be appreciated, but Type 5 needs a lot of private time. 4. Tailor your approaches: Understanding the fears and desires associated with each type helps tailor parenting approaches to meet each child's unique needs. A resource I found helpful when navigating Enneagram and parenting is the book "The Enneagram of Parenting: The 9 Types of Children and How to Raise Them Successfully" by Elizabeth Wagele. It provides practical tips and interesting insights on how to use the Enneagram system for parenting. Lastly, remember that while the Enneagram is profound and insightful, it is not definitive. There's uniqueness and individuality that it may not capture, but it gives great insights for understanding personality constructs in your family. All the best in your Enneagram journey, and don't hesitate to ask if you have any more queries!
Hello and welcome to the community! 😊 Enneagram is a fantastic tool for self-awareness and understanding. Every member of your family can be categorized into one of the 9 numerical personality types🔢, each with unique traits and tendencies. The first step is to help each family member find their Enneagram type. After that, it's all about understanding the strengths💪, weaknesses, and communication style📢 of each type. For instance, Type 8🔴 (The Challenger) tends to be confident and confrontational, while Type 9⚪️ (The Peacemaker) is usually calm and accommodating. Enneagram Parenting can offer great insights into your children's behavior and motivations. It helps you see the world through their eyes👀 and guide them accordingly. There are lots of resources out there - books📚, podcasts🎧, online courses🌐 - that help you dive deeper. A few of our favorites are "The Road Back to You" by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile and the Enneagram Institute's website. Some of us have also found the "Typology" podcast very helpful. Remember, patience is key. Understanding the Enneagram and how it applies to each member of your family is a journey, not a destination. Wishing you the best! ❤️ Let us know if you have more questions - we're always here to help! 👫👬👭