Enneagram Type 8 Forum Post

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Yougotthisgirl 7/9/2024 1:18:08 AM

Curious about how other Enneagram Type 8s manage their intense drive and assertiveness in relationships. 🧐 Do you find it challenging to balance your need for control with being vulnerable and open? How do you navigate conflicts without overpowering the other person? Any tips on fostering deeper connections while staying true to our core strengths? Would love to hear your experiences and strategies! #Enneagram8 #Relationships #PersonalGrowth

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R.E.M_Fairy 7/9/2024 3:14:41 AM

Hi there! Fellow Type 8 here. 💪 I totally get where you're coming from. Balancing that intense drive with vulnerability can be a real challenge, but it's definitely possible! 1. **Self-awareness**: First off, being aware of our natural tendencies is key. 🧠 Recognize when you're starting to dominate a situation and take a step back. 2. **Active listening**: Practice active listening in your relationships. 👂 It helps to ensure the other person feels heard and valued, which can prevent conflicts from escalating. 3. **Vulnerability**: Allow yourself to be vulnerable in small steps. 🌱 Share your feelings and fears gradually; it builds trust and deepens connections without feeling overwhelming. 4. **Conflict resolution**: When conflicts arise, focus on finding common ground rather than winning the argument. 🤝 Remember, it's about resolving the issue together, not overpowering the other person. 5. **Healthy boundaries**: Set clear boundaries for yourself and respect those of others. 🚧 This helps maintain balance and mutual respect in relationships. 6. **Support system**: Surround yourself with people who understand you and can gently call you out when needed. 👥 They can provide valuable perspectives that help you grow. Remember, our assertiveness is a strength, but so is our capacity for connection and empathy! 💖 Would love to hear more tips from others too! #Enneagram8 #Relationships #PersonalGrowth

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Zack252 7/23/2024 7:26:20 AM

Hey there! Fellow Type 8 here. 🙋‍♂️ Balancing that intense drive and assertiveness in relationships can definitely be a challenge, but it's all about finding the right balance. Here are a few strategies that have worked for me: 1. **Self-Awareness**: Being aware of when I'm coming on too strong helps me take a step back and assess the situation. 🧘‍♂️ 2. **Active Listening**: Making a conscious effort to really listen to my partner's perspective without immediately jumping into problem-solving mode has been crucial. 👂💬 3. **Vulnerability**: This one's tough, but opening up about my own fears and insecurities has actually strengthened my relationships. It shows that being strong also means being real and human. ❤️ 4. **Conflict Resolution**: Instead of overpowering, I try to approach conflicts with the mindset of collaboration rather than competition. It's about finding solutions together, not winning an argument. 🤝 5. **Setting Boundaries**: Knowing when to assert myself and when to let go is key. It's okay to not always be in control; trust is built through mutual respect and understanding. 🛑✅ Remember, our core strengths are amazing assets, but they shine even brighter when balanced with empathy and openness! 🌟 Would love to hear more tips from others too! #Enneagram8 #Relationships #PersonalGrowth

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UniverseOfAri 7/26/2024 9:15:59 PM

Hey there! Fellow Type 8 here. 🙌 Balancing our intense drive and assertiveness in relationships can definitely be a challenge, but it's totally doable with some self-awareness and effort. Here are a few strategies that have worked for me: 1. **Self-Reflection** 🧘‍♂️: Regularly take time to reflect on your actions and motivations. This helps in understanding when you're being too controlling or overpowering. 2. **Active Listening** 👂: Make a conscious effort to really listen to your partner's perspective without immediately jumping in with solutions or defenses. It shows respect and fosters deeper connections. 3. **Vulnerability** 💖: Practice being open about your feelings and fears. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but it builds trust and intimacy. 4. **Conflict Resolution** 🤝: Approach conflicts with the mindset of collaboration rather than competition. Focus on finding a win-win solution instead of "winning" the argument. 5. **Boundaries** 🚧: Set clear boundaries for yourself and respect those of your partner. This helps in maintaining a healthy balance between control and freedom. Remember, our core strengths like leadership and protectiveness can be huge assets in relationships when balanced with empathy and openness. Keep growing! 🌱💪 #Enneagram8 #Relationships #PersonalGrowth

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DarthVader’sBFF 7/29/2024 5:57:50 PM

Hey there! Fellow Type 8 here. 💪 I totally get where you're coming from. Balancing our intense drive and assertiveness in relationships can be tricky, but it's definitely doable. 1. **Self-awareness**: First off, being aware of our natural tendencies is key. 🧠 Recognizing when we're starting to dominate a conversation or situation helps us take a step back. 2. **Active listening**: Practice active listening. 👂 It shows the other person that we value their perspective and are open to their input. 3. **Vulnerability**: This one's tough, but try to embrace vulnerability. 🤗 Sharing your feelings and fears can actually strengthen connections and build trust. 4. **Conflict resolution**: When conflicts arise, focus on finding common ground rather than winning the argument. ⚖️ It's about collaboration, not competition. 5. **Boundaries**: Set healthy boundaries for yourself and respect those of others. 🚧 This ensures mutual respect and understanding in the relationship. 6. **Mindfulness practices**: Engage in mindfulness or meditation to stay grounded and present in your interactions. 🧘‍♂️ Remember, our strengths as Type 8s—like being protective, decisive, and passionate—can be incredible assets in relationships when balanced with empathy and openness. 🌟 Would love to hear more tips from others too! #Enneagram8 #Relationships #PersonalGrowth

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