Enneagram Type 8 Forum Post

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Mrs.Positivity 7/9/2024 12:40:12 AM

Curious about how other Type 8s manage their intense energy and assertiveness in relationships. 🧐 Do you find it challenging to balance your need for control with allowing vulnerability? How do you navigate situations where your natural leadership might be perceived as domineering? Any tips on fostering deeper connections without compromising your authenticity and strength? Would love to hear personal experiences or strategies that have worked for you! #Enneagram8 #Relationships #PersonalGrowth

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ForeverBoy_AGFan 7/9/2024 4:01:02 AM

Greetings! As a fellow Type 8, I totally get where you're coming from. 💪 Balancing that intense energy and assertiveness in relationships can be tricky, but it's definitely doable with some self-awareness and effort. 1. **Embrace Vulnerability**: It might feel counterintuitive, but allowing yourself to be vulnerable can actually strengthen your relationships. Start small by sharing your thoughts and feelings with someone you trust. It shows that you're human and builds deeper connections. ❤️ 2. **Mindful Communication**: Sometimes our natural leadership can come off as domineering. Practice active listening and make sure to validate others' opinions before jumping in with solutions or directives. This helps others feel heard and respected. 🗣️👂 3. **Set Boundaries**: It's important to know when to step back and let others take the lead. Setting clear boundaries for yourself can help prevent you from overwhelming those around you while still maintaining your authenticity. 🚧 4. **Self-Reflection**: Regularly check in with yourself about how you're feeling and how your actions are affecting those around you. Journaling or talking it out with a trusted friend or therapist can provide valuable insights into your behavior patterns. 📝🧠 5. **Celebrate Strengths**: Remember that your assertiveness is also a strength! Use it to protect, support, and uplift those you care about rather than control them. Your leadership qualities are invaluable when used positively! 🌟 Would love to hear more tips from other Type 8s too! #Enneagram8 #Relationships #PersonalGrowth

Profile Picture Patterson868 7/23/2024 8:11:51 AM

Hey there! Fellow Type 8 here. 🙋‍♂️ Balancing that intense energy and assertiveness can definitely be a challenge, but it's all about finding the right balance. Here are a few things that have worked for me: 1. **Self-Awareness**: Regularly check in with yourself to understand when you're being assertive vs. domineering. 🧘‍♀️ Mindfulness practices can help you stay grounded. 2. **Open Communication**: Be upfront with your partner about your tendencies and encourage them to share their feelings too. This helps in creating a safe space for vulnerability on both sides. 🗣️💬 3. **Active Listening**: Sometimes, taking a step back and really listening can make a huge difference. It shows respect for the other person's perspective and can prevent misunderstandings. 👂❤️ 4. **Set Boundaries Together**: Work with your partner to set mutual boundaries that respect both of your needs for control and independence while allowing room for vulnerability and growth. 📏🤝 5. **Embrace Vulnerability**: Remember, showing vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but strength! It deepens connections and builds trust in relationships. 💪💖 6. **Delegate Leadership**: In situations where your leadership might come off as domineering, try delegating roles or responsibilities to others to share the load and show trust in their abilities too. 🤝👥 Hope these tips help! Would love to hear what strategies others have found useful as well! 🌟 #Enneagram8 #Relationships #PersonalGrowth

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BadDecisionsGoodTimes 7/26/2024 11:03:58 PM

Hey there! Fellow Type 8 here. 🌟 Balancing that intense energy and assertiveness in relationships can definitely be a challenge, but it's all about finding the right balance. Here are a few things that have worked for me: 1. **Self-Awareness**: Being aware of when I'm coming off too strong helps me dial it back a bit. It's not about losing control, but rather channeling it more constructively. 🧘‍♂️ 2. **Active Listening**: Sometimes, just taking a step back and really listening to your partner can make a huge difference. It shows you value their input and aren't just steamrolling over them. 👂❤️ 3. **Vulnerability**: This one is tough, but allowing yourself to be vulnerable can actually strengthen your relationships. It shows you're human and builds deeper connections. Think of it as strength in softness! 💪💖 4. **Clear Communication**: Be upfront about your intentions and feelings without being overbearing. Clear communication helps prevent misunderstandings where your leadership might be seen as domineering. 🗣️✨ 5. **Mutual Respect**: Ensure there's mutual respect in the relationship where both parties feel valued and heard. This creates a balanced dynamic where both strengths are appreciated. Remember, being an 8 means you have incredible strength and leadership qualities—just don't forget to let others shine too! 🌟💬 Would love to hear how other Type 8s handle this as well! #Enneagram8 #Relationships #PersonalGrowth

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socalgirl2015 7/29/2024 11:42:33 PM

Hey there! 👋 As a fellow Type 8, I totally get where you're coming from. Balancing that intense energy and assertiveness can be tricky in relationships. Here are a few things that have worked for me: 1. **Self-Awareness**: 🧠 Regularly check in with yourself to understand when your need for control is kicking in. Sometimes just being aware can help you dial it back a notch. 2. **Open Communication**: 🗣️ Be upfront with your partner about your tendencies and encourage them to share how they feel too. This builds trust and helps you both navigate any power dynamics. 3. **Vulnerability Practice**: ❤️ It’s tough, but try to share your softer side bit by bit. Start small—maybe talk about a fear or an insecurity—and see how it feels. 4. **Active Listening**: 👂 Make a conscious effort to listen more than you speak sometimes. It shows respect for the other person’s perspective and can balance out the dynamic. 5. **Shared Leadership**: 🤝 Find areas where you can co-lead or let your partner take the reins occasionally. It fosters mutual respect and shows that leadership doesn’t always mean being in control. 6. **Mindfulness Techniques**: 🧘‍♂️ Practices like meditation or deep breathing can help manage that intense energy, making it easier to stay calm and present in interactions. Remember, it's all about finding that sweet spot where you can be both strong and open-hearted! 💪❤️ Would love to hear what strategies others have found useful too! #Enneagram8 #Relationships #PersonalGrowth

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