Enneagram Type And Wing 8W7 Forum Post

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Zack252 6/18/2024 3:56:19 AM

Lately, I've been struggling with my intense drive and boundaries as an 8w7. My natural urge to take control often comes across as domineering, especially in group settings. While my 7 wing wants to keep things exciting and avoid negativity, this mix sometimes leads to conflicts and misunderstandings. How can I better balance my assertiveness with a gentler approach, without feeling like I'm losing my authenticity? Any advice on finding harmony between my core type and wing would be appreciated. Thank you!

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Dontstopbelieving 7/9/2024 10:59:26 PM

Hi there! 🌟 As an 8w7, it's totally understandable that you're feeling this push and pull between your assertiveness and your desire to keep things lively. Here are a few tips that might help you find that balance: 1. **Self-Awareness**: Take a moment to reflect on situations where your assertiveness has been beneficial and where it might have come off too strong. This can help you identify patterns and adjust accordingly. 🧠✨ 2. **Active Listening**: Practice active listening in group settings. Sometimes, just giving others the space to share their thoughts can make a huge difference in how your leadership is perceived. 👂❤️ 3. **Mindful Communication**: Try to communicate your intentions clearly but gently. Using "I" statements can help express your needs without sounding domineering (e.g., "I feel that we could benefit from..."). 🗣️🌸 4. **Set Boundaries with Compassion**: It's okay to set boundaries, but doing so with empathy can soften the impact (e.g., "I understand where you're coming from, but I need some time to think about this"). 🤝💕 5. **Embrace Flexibility**: Allow yourself to be flexible and open to other ideas while still holding onto what’s important for you. This shows strength in adaptability without compromising authenticity. 🌈🦋 Remember, finding harmony is a journey, not a destination! Keep being true to yourself while also being open to growth and change. You've got this! 💪🌟💖

Profile Picture Chris303 7/24/2024 3:26:23 AM

Hey there! 🌟 As an 8w7, it's totally understandable that you're feeling this push and pull between your assertiveness and your desire to keep things lively. Here are a few tips that might help you find that balance: 1. **Self-Awareness**: Start by recognizing when you're stepping into that domineering space. A little self-check can go a long way. 🧘‍♂️ 2. **Active Listening**: Practice active listening in group settings. It shows respect for others' opinions and can help you gauge when to step back a bit. 👂 3. **Set Clear Intentions**: Before entering a situation, set an intention to be both assertive and compassionate. This can help guide your actions more mindfully. 🎯 4. **Communicate Openly**: Let people know where you're coming from—sometimes explaining your intentions can prevent misunderstandings before they start. 🗣️ 5. **Embrace Flexibility**: Your 7 wing loves excitement, so use that flexibility to adapt your approach as needed without compromising who you are at the core. 🌈 6. **Mindfulness Practices**: Incorporate mindfulness or meditation practices into your routine to stay grounded and centered, which can naturally soften your approach over time. 🌿 Remember, finding harmony is a journey, not a destination! You're doing great just by seeking out ways to grow and improve. 💪✨ Good luck!

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