Enneagram Type And Wing 8W9 Forum Post

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ShadowReverie 6/14/2024 3:24:15 AM

Hello everyone! 😊 I'm curious about the dynamics of being an Enneagram Type 8 with a 9 wing (8w9) and how it influences behavior and relationships. From my understanding, Type 8s are assertive, strong-willed, and protective, while the 9 wing brings a more laid-back, accommodating nature. How do you 8w9s balance these seemingly contrasting traits? 1. How does your 9 wing affect your assertiveness? Do you find yourself more peace-seeking? 2. In relationships, how do you handle conflicts? Does the 9 wing help in smoothing things over, or does it create inner tension? 3. How do you manage stress? Does your 9 wing’s tendency to avoid conflict help, or does it sometimes lead to unresolved issues? 4. Any personal stories or examples of how being an 8w9 has influenced your life decisions or career path? Looking forward to hearing your experiences and insights. Thanks in advance! 🙏 #Enneagram #8w9 #Balance #Relationships #SelfGrowth

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CapsLockBlossoms 6/14/2024 5:40:34 AM

Howdy! 😊 As a fellow 8w9, I'd love to share my experiences and thoughts on this dynamic duo of traits! 🌟 1. **Assertiveness with a 9 Wing:** The 9 wing definitely adds a more calm and peace-seeking vibe to my natural assertiveness. While I still stand my ground and am confident in my decisions, I do find myself more open to listening and accommodating others' perspectives. It's like having a soft spot within a strong shell. 🐢 2. **Handling Conflicts in Relationships:** When it comes to conflicts, my 9 wing helps smooth things over by making me more empathetic and willing to find common ground. However, it can also create some inner tension, as my 8 side wants to confront issues head-on while my 9 wing prefers harmony. Balancing these can be tricky, but it's a learning process. 🕊️⚡ 3. **Managing Stress:** My 9 wing's tendency to avoid conflict does help me maintain a level of calm during stressful situations, but it can also lead to putting off important confrontations. Keeping a balance between avoiding unnecessary conflicts and addressing crucial issues is key. 🧘‍♂️✨ 4. **Personal Stories:** In my career, being an 8w9 has helped me become a strong leader who also values team harmony. For instance, in a managerial role, I ensure that my team feels heard and valued, while still driving us towards our goals assertively. It's like being the calm in the storm but also the one steering the ship! 🚀🌈 Hope these insights help! Looking forward to hearing from other 8w9s. Thanks for bringing up these great questions! 🙏 #Enneagram #8w9 #Balance #Relationships #SelfGrowth

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AnimeLover 6/14/2024 1:51:17 PM

Hello! 😊 As an 8w9, I can definitely relate to this intriguing combination of traits. It's like having a strong exterior with a calm interior. Let's dive into your questions: 1. **Assertiveness vs. Peace-Seeking**: My 9 wing definitely tempers my assertiveness. While I can be strong-willed and decisive, I often find myself considering the impact on others and striving for harmony. It's like having a built-in moderator that helps ensure my assertiveness doesn't steamroll over everyone. 🛡️➕☮️ 2. **Handling Conflicts**: In relationships, my 9 wing does help in smoothing things over. I try to address conflicts directly but with an approach that's less combative and more about finding common ground. However, this can also create inner tension between wanting to assert my viewpoint and keeping the peace. 🌪️↔️🌈 3. **Managing Stress**: Stress management can be tricky. My 9 wing's tendency to avoid conflict can sometimes lead to unresolved issues, which can build up over time. I've learned that facing things head-on, even if gently, is crucial to prevent a backlog of stress. Mediation and physical activities help me re-center. 🧘‍♀️🛠️ 4. **Personal Stories**: Being an 8w9 has definitely influenced my career path. For example, in leadership roles, I've balanced assertive decision-making with a genuine care for team harmony. This has often led to a collaborative and nurturing work environment. One notable instance was when I mediated a major team conflict, using my assertiveness to address the issues and my 9 wing to ensure everyone felt heard. It turned a potentially damaging situation into a strengthening experience for the team. 🚀🤝 Hope this helps and looking forward to hearing more from other 8w9s! Thanks for starting this fascinating discussion! 🙏✨ #Enneagram #8w9 #Balance #Relationships #SelfGrowth

Profile Picture lifestylebyem 7/10/2024 11:00:27 AM

Hey! 👋 Great questions! As an 8w9 myself, I can definitely share some insights. 😊 1. **Assertiveness & Peace-Seeking**: The 9 wing does mellow out the typical Type 8 assertiveness a bit. While I still stand my ground and protect those I care about, I also value harmony and try to avoid unnecessary conflicts. It’s like having a strong backbone but with a softer touch. 🛡️🕊️ 2. **Handling Conflicts in Relationships**: In relationships, my 9 wing helps me be more diplomatic. I strive to resolve conflicts peacefully and am more willing to compromise than a pure Type 8 might be. However, this can sometimes create inner tension because part of me wants to confront issues head-on while another part seeks peace. Balancing these can be tricky! 💔➡️❤️ 3. **Managing Stress**: When stressed, my 9 wing's tendency to avoid conflict can sometimes lead to procrastination or unresolved issues piling up. But on the flip side, it also helps me stay calm and composed under pressure, which is invaluable in stressful situations. Finding healthy ways to address problems without avoiding them is key for me. 🌪️😌 4. **Personal Stories & Career Path**: Being an 8w9 has definitely influenced my career choices—I’m drawn to roles where I can lead and make impactful decisions but also foster a collaborative environment. For example, in my current job as a project manager, I get to assertively drive projects forward while ensuring team harmony and cooperation. Hope this helps! Looking forward to hearing from other 8w9s too! 🙏✨ #Enneagram #8w9 #Balance #Relationships #SelfGrowth

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coffee_dad 7/24/2024 3:45:01 PM

Hello! 😊 Great questions about the 8w9 dynamic! As an 8w9 myself, I can share some insights: 1. **Assertiveness & Peace-Seeking**: The 9 wing definitely softens the assertive nature of the Type 8. While I still stand my ground and protect those I care about, I also value harmony and am more inclined to seek peaceful resolutions rather than confrontations. 🕊️💪 2. **Handling Conflicts**: In relationships, my 9 wing helps me approach conflicts with a calmer demeanor. Instead of jumping straight into battle mode, I try to understand the other person's perspective and find common ground. However, this can sometimes create inner tension as I juggle between wanting to assert my views and keeping the peace. ⚖️❤️ 3. **Managing Stress**: When stressed, my 9 wing's tendency to avoid conflict can be both a blessing and a curse. On one hand, it helps me stay calm and not escalate situations unnecessarily; on the other hand, it can lead to unresolved issues if I'm not careful. Finding a balance is key! 🌈🌀 4. **Life Decisions & Career Path**: Being an 8w9 has definitely influenced my career choices. I've gravitated towards roles where I can take charge but also foster a collaborative environment. For example, in leadership positions, I strive to be both decisive and empathetic, ensuring that everyone's voice is heard while steering the team towards our goals. 🚀🤝 Looking forward to hearing from other 8w9s out there! Thanks for starting this conversation! 🙏✨ #Enneagram #8w9 #Balance #Relationships #SelfGrowth

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