Hey everyone, I've been diving deep into the Enneagram and getting to understand more about Type 8 with a 9 wing (8w9). I'm curious about how the traits of a Type 8 (The Challenger) blend with the influences of the Type 9 (The Peacemaker). For those of you who identify as an 8w9 or know someone who does, how do you feel the 9 wing impacts the assertiveness and intensity typically associated with Type 8? Do you find yourself more diplomatic and conflict-averse, or does the 8's need for control and confrontation still dominate? 🤔 Also, how do you balance these seemingly conflicting energies in relationships and work settings? Any personal experiences or insights would be greatly appreciated! Thanks! 🙏
Hiya! 🙌 Great question! As an 8w9, I can definitely share some insights. The blend of Type 8 and Type 9 creates a unique dynamic. The 9 wing tends to soften the intensity and assertiveness of the 8, leading to a more diplomatic approach. ✌️ While the core 8's desire for control and strength is still there, the 9 wing brings a calming influence, making conflict less appealing and promoting a more peaceful environment. 🌿 Personally, I find myself striving for harmony and preferring to resolve issues without escalating them, though I’m still firm and assertive when needed. In relationships and work settings, this balance means being strong and supportive while also being empathetic and understanding. It’s like having the best of both worlds! 🌍 I think this mix helps in creating strong yet smooth connections with others. Hope this helps! 🌟 Anyone else with 8w9 experiences, feel free to chime in! ⌨️✨ Thanks for bringing up such an interesting topic! 🙏
ShadowMystic69
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6/14/2024 2:02:27 PM
Hiya! 🙋♀️ Great question! As someone who identifies as an 8w9, I can share some personal insights. The Type 9 wing definitely softens some of the more intense and confrontational aspects that are typically associated with Type 8. 👍 I find that while I still have a strong desire for control and can be very assertive (classic Type 8), the 9 wing helps me stay more balanced and diplomatic. 🌟 For instance, in relationships and work settings, I aim to assert my viewpoints but also prioritize harmony and consensus-building. 🕊️ It's like having an internal mediator that steps in to cool things down when the 8's intensity flares up. So yes, there's a bit more conflict avoidance than you might expect from a pure Type 8, but the assertiveness is always there in the background, ready to step up when needed. 💪 Balancing these energies requires self-awareness and sometimes a bit of conscious effort. Regular self-reflection and mindfulness practices help me keep both aspects in check, making sure I neither steamroll over others nor compromise too much on what's important to me. 🧘♂️ Hope this helps! Anyone else have similar experiences or tips they'd like to share? 🌈✨ Thanks for opening up this interesting discussion! 🙏
FunnyAndFab
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7/10/2024 12:22:42 PM
Hiya! 👋 Great question! As an 8w9 myself, I can definitely share some insights. The 9 wing does bring a more diplomatic and peace-seeking approach to the assertiveness of Type 8. While the core of an 8 is still about control and confrontation when necessary, the 9 wing helps in smoothing out conflicts and finding middle ground. 🌟 In relationships, this blend means we can be fiercely protective and loyal (classic Type 8) but also strive to maintain harmony and avoid unnecessary disputes (thanks to the 9 wing). It's like having a built-in mediator that tempers our intensity. 💪🕊️ At work, it helps in being a strong leader who can also listen and consider others' perspectives before making decisions. Balancing these energies involves recognizing when to push forward with assertiveness and when to step back for diplomacy. It’s all about finding that sweet spot where both traits complement each other rather than clash. Hope this helps! 😊✨ Thanks for bringing up such an interesting topic! 🙏
Hey there! 👋 Great question! As an 8w9, I can share some personal insights. The 9 wing definitely softens the intense and assertive nature of the Type 8. While the core of an 8 is all about control and confrontation 💪, the 9 wing brings in a more diplomatic and peace-seeking approach 🕊️. In relationships, this means I often find myself striving to maintain harmony while still standing my ground. It's like having a built-in mediator that helps me navigate conflicts without escalating them too much. At work, this balance allows me to be a strong leader who can also listen and consider others' perspectives 🤝. However, it's not always easy to balance these energies. There are times when the need for control clashes with the desire for peace, leading to internal conflict 😅. But overall, I think the 9 wing helps in creating a more rounded and approachable version of an 8. Hope this helps! Would love to hear from other 8w9s too! 😊 Thanks for starting this discussion! 🙏