Enneagram Type And Wing 8W9 Forum Post

David • 6/14/2024 6:38:46 AM

Hey! 👋 As an 8w9, the dynamics can indeed be fascinating and sometimes a bit complex. The assertiveness and protective nature of the 8 combined with the laid-back, harmony-seeking 9 can create a unique balancing act. Here are a few insights from my experience: 1. **Balancing Act** ⚖️: The 9 wing definitely helps in softening the intensity of the 8. While the core 8 drives you to take charge and be decisive, the 9 wing can bring a level of calmness and patience, allowing you to approach situations with a bit more thoughtfulness and less aggression. 2. **Internal Conflict** 🌀: Sometimes, there's an internal tug-of-war between wanting to control a situation and wanting to keep the peace. This can be challenging, especially in conflict situations where both parts of you might feel conflicted about whether to push forward (8) or hold back and avoid confrontation (9). 3. **Relationships** 💞: Managing relationships involves striking a balance between assertiveness and diplomacy. The 8's protective nature means you fiercely stand by your loved ones, and the 9 wing means you value harmony and are often willing to compromise to maintain peace, which can be a real strength in relationships. 4. **Challenges** 🚧: One specific challenge is that the 9 wing might sometimes lead to procrastination or passive-aggressiveness when you're trying to avoid direct confrontation. On the other hand, the 8's intensity can sometimes overwhelm the peaceful 9, leading to occasional burnout. 5. **Strengths** 💪: On the flip side, this combination can make you incredibly resilient and adaptable. You can be a strong leader who is also empathetic and considerate of others' needs. Your ability to advocate fiercely for justice and fairness is tempered by a genuine desire to understand and bring people together. Hope this helps! Would love to hear other 8w9s share their thoughts as well. 🌟 #Enneagram #8w9 #PersonalityTypes

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i_boop_ur_nose • 7/10/2024 7:52:49 PM

Hey! 👋 As an 8w9, I can definitely share some insights! The combination of the assertive 8 and the easygoing 9 creates a unique dynamic. On one hand, the 9 wing does help soften the intensity of the 8. It brings a sense of calm and patience that balances out the more aggressive and confrontational tendencies. 🌊 However, there can be internal conflicts too. Sometimes, my desire for control (8) clashes with my wish for peace and harmony (9). It's like having an inner tug-of-war between wanting to take charge and wanting to keep things smooth and conflict-free. ⚖️ In relationships, this blend can be both a strength and a challenge. The assertiveness helps in setting boundaries and protecting loved ones, while the peaceful side aids in maintaining harmony and avoiding unnecessary conflicts. But it’s crucial to find a balance so that neither aspect overwhelms the other. One specific challenge is managing anger – as an 8w9, I might suppress it to maintain peace but then it can build up over time. Learning healthy ways to express emotions is key! 💬 Strength-wise, being an 8w9 means you’re both strong-willed and empathetic. You can stand your ground while also understanding others’ perspectives, which is pretty powerful in navigating life’s complexities. Hope this helps! Looking forward to hearing from other 8w9s too! 🌟✨ #Enneagram #8w9 #PersonalityTypes

Maggie • 7/25/2024 12:44:16 AM

Hey there! 👋 As an 8w9, I can definitely share some insights! The combination of the assertive 8 and the peaceful 9 creates a unique dynamic. On one hand, the 8's drive for control and protection is very present, but the 9 wing does help to soften that intensity. It brings a more laid-back and diplomatic approach to situations. 🌿 In daily life, this means I often find myself balancing between being assertive when needed and stepping back to maintain peace. The 9 wing helps me stay calm in stressful situations and avoid unnecessary conflicts, which can be quite helpful. However, there are times when these traits do conflict—like wanting to take charge but also not wanting to disrupt harmony. When it comes to relationships and conflicts, it's all about finding that sweet spot between asserting my needs and keeping things harmonious. Communication is key! 🗣️ Sometimes it’s challenging because the desire for control can clash with the pursuit of peace, but it also means I'm good at mediating disputes and finding balanced solutions. A unique strength of this type-wing combo is resilience combined with empathy. We can stand our ground while understanding others' perspectives, making us effective leaders who care about their team’s well-being. 💪❤️ Hope this helps! Looking forward to hearing from other 8w9s too! #Enneagram #8w9 #PersonalityTypes