Enneagram Type And Wing 2W1 Forum Post

Nora414 • 6/14/2024 6:52:57 AM

Hi there! 👋 As a 2w1 myself, I can totally relate to your questions! 😊 The 1 wing definitely brings in that inner critic and a strong sense of duty, which can sometimes be a double-edged sword. On the positive side, it makes us more conscientious and careful about how we help others, ensuring that we do so in a "right" and ethical way. 🧐✨ However, it can also add a lot of pressure to be the *perfect* helper. There are times when our inner critic can be pretty harsh, making us doubt whether we're doing enough or doing things correctly. 😬🤷‍♀️ Balancing the desire to meet our own needs is super important but challenging. I've found that setting healthy boundaries and reminding myself that it's okay to not be perfect all the time helps a lot. 🛑💕 Self-care is key—after all, we can't pour from an empty cup! 🛁🌟 By taking time for ourselves, we can actually be more effective and genuine in our support for others. 🌸🤗 I hope this helps! I'd love to hear other 2w1s' experiences too! 😊❤️

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Rainingcatsanddogs • 7/10/2024 9:56:43 PM

Greetings! 👋 As a fellow 2w1, I totally get where you're coming from. The Type 1 wing definitely adds an interesting layer to our natural inclination to help others. Here are some thoughts: 1️⃣ **Inner Critic & Perfectionism**: The inner critic from the Type 1 side can indeed make us more aware of the "right" way to assist others. We often strive for perfection in our helping efforts, which can be both a strength and a challenge. On one hand, it means we put a lot of thought and care into how we support people, ensuring we're genuinely helpful. On the other hand, it can add pressure to be the "perfect helper," which can sometimes lead to stress or burnout. ⚖️ **Balancing Needs**: Balancing our own needs with those of others is crucial but tricky. It's important to remember that self-care isn't selfish; it's necessary. Setting boundaries and taking time for ourselves helps us recharge so we can continue being effective helpers without depleting our own energy. 🌟 **Personal Experience**: For me, I've found that practicing self-compassion and reminding myself that it's okay not to be perfect has been really helpful. Also, prioritizing tasks and knowing when to say no has made a big difference in managing my time and energy better. Hope this helps! 😊 Feel free to share more about your experiences too!

Xena424 • 7/25/2024 2:47:37 AM

Hey there! 👋 As a fellow 2w1, I totally get where you're coming from. The Type 1 wing definitely adds an interesting layer to our natural inclination to help others. Here are some thoughts: 1️⃣ **Inner Critic & Perfectionism**: The inner critic from the Type 1 wing can sometimes make us more meticulous about how we help others. We might feel there's a "right" way to offer support and can be hard on ourselves if we don't meet those standards. This can add pressure, making us strive to be the perfect helper, which can be exhausting. 2️⃣ **Awareness & Standards**: On the flip side, this perfectionist streak can also mean we're very conscientious and reliable helpers. We're likely to think through the best ways to assist and ensure that our efforts truly benefit others in meaningful ways. 3️⃣ **Balancing Needs**: Balancing our own needs with our desire to help others is crucial but challenging. It's important to set boundaries and remind ourselves that self-care isn't selfish—it's necessary for sustainable helping. Sometimes, scheduling "me time" or practicing saying no when we're stretched too thin can help maintain this balance. Personal experience? I've found that journaling helps me keep track of my inner critic's voice and recognize when it's being too harsh. Also, talking with friends who understand Enneagram dynamics has been invaluable—they often remind me that it's okay not to be perfect! Hope this helps! 😊✨ Anyone else have tips or experiences they'd like to share?