Enneagram Type And Wing 9W8 Forum Post

Hello! 😊✨ It's so cool that you're diving into the world of the Enneagram! 🌟 The 9w8 combination is indeed a fascinating blend of tranquility and strength. As a 9w8 myself, I can share some insights on how these traits come together. Balancing peace and assertiveness can sometimes feel like a dance. 💃🕺 The Type 9's longing for harmony often means we seek to avoid conflict, but the 8 wing gives us a backbone to stand firm when it’s necessary. It's like having a calm lake with a powerful undercurrent. 🏞️🌊 In my experience, one of the challenges is when the desire for peace leads to inaction, yet the 8 wing's assertiveness nudges us to take charge. For instance, in group settings, I might initially sit back to keep things smooth, but if I see something unjust or if a decision needs a push, my 8 wing steps in. 🗣️💪 One real-life example: I once worked on a team project where everyone had differing opinions. My 9 side wanted to keep everyone happy and find a middle ground, but my 8 wing couldn't tolerate a decision that felt wrong or unjust. So, I facilitated a discussion that acknowledged everyone's views (keeping the peace) but also confidently proposed a solution that felt right and fair (assertiveness). In the end, it was about using my assertiveness to achieve a peaceful outcome that worked for everyone. 🏆🤝 As for the 8 wing influencing the conflict-avoidant nature, it really helps in not shying away when a confrontation is necessary. It's like having the strength to carry through peace initiatives even when they require standing up and speaking out. So, while I naturally avoid conflict, the 8 wing gives me the courage to face it head-on when avoidance isn’t an option. ⚔️✌️ Hope this helps! Looking forward to hearing other 9w8 stories too! 🥰🌈 Cheers! 🍃👊

Hiya! 👋 Great question! As a 9w8 myself, I can share some insights. The blend of the Peacemaker and the Challenger can be quite interesting. On one hand, we crave harmony and avoid conflict like typical Type 9s, but on the other hand, the 8 wing gives us a surprising assertiveness and strength when needed. In real life, this often means that while we prefer peace and calm, we're not afraid to stand up for ourselves or others if something feels fundamentally wrong. It's like having an inner warrior who only comes out when absolutely necessary. 🛡️✨ One challenge is balancing these traits without feeling torn. For example, in group settings, I might initially try to mediate and keep everyone happy (Type 9), but if someone crosses a line or there's an injustice, my 8 wing kicks in and I'll assertively address it. This can sometimes surprise people who see me as easygoing. A specific situation where these traits harmonize is in leadership roles. The desire for peace helps create a supportive environment, while the assertiveness ensures that boundaries are respected and goals are met. 💪🌿 Regarding conflict avoidance, the 8 wing definitely makes it easier to face conflicts head-on when they arise rather than avoiding them entirely. It’s like having a backup plan: "I’ll keep things peaceful... until I can't." 😅 Hope this helps! Would love to hear more experiences from others too! 😊

Hey there! 👋 Great to see your enthusiasm for the Enneagram! 🌟 As a 9w8 myself, I can share some insights on how this unique blend plays out in real life. Balancing the desire for peace with the assertiveness of the 8 wing can be quite an interesting dance. 💃🕺 On one hand, the Type 9's core drive is to maintain harmony and avoid conflict, but the 8 wing brings in a strong sense of self-assuredness and a willingness to stand up for what we believe in. This can sometimes create internal tension, but it also provides a powerful combination of calm strength. In terms of challenges, there are moments when these traits clash. For example, I might feel torn between wanting to keep the peace in a group setting and feeling compelled to voice my opinion strongly if something feels unjust or wrong. 😬 However, this blend can also harmonize beautifully; it allows me to approach conflicts with a calm demeanor while still being firm and assertive when necessary. 🧘‍♂️💪 The 8 wing definitely tempers the conflict-avoidant nature of Type 9 by giving us more courage to face confrontations head-on rather than shying away from them completely. For instance, I've found that I'm able to mediate disputes effectively because I can understand both sides (thanks to my peacemaking tendencies) while also having the backbone to enforce boundaries or solutions (courtesy of my 8 wing). 🛡️🤝 A real-life example: In my workplace, there was a situation where team members were clashing over project responsibilities. My natural inclination was to smooth things over quietly, but my 8 wing pushed me to address the issue directly in a team meeting. I calmly laid out everyone's concerns and helped facilitate a fair distribution of tasks. It wasn't easy, but it led to a more harmonious work environment in the long run. Hope this helps! 😊 Would love to hear others' experiences too! Cheers! ✨