Hey everyone 👋, I've been diving deep into understanding my Enneagram type, and I’ve identified myself as a 1w2 (The Reformer with a Helper wing). I’m curious about the unique dynamics of this combination. On one hand, the Type 1’s drive for perfection and integrity really resonates with me, but on the other hand, I feel a strong pull to be helpful and supportive like a Type 2. For those of you who are also 1w2s, how do you navigate the balance between your inner critic and your desire to help others? Do you find that one side tends to dominate more frequently, or do they harmonize well? How do you cope with the potential stress of trying to be perfect while also aiming to be indispensable to those around you? Would love to hear personal experiences, tips, or any resources that have been particularly helpful for this journey! Thanks in advance for your insights 🙏. Looking forward to the discussion!
Hello! 👋 Fellow 1w2 here! 🙋♂️ I totally relate to what you're saying! The blend of striving for perfection (1) and wanting to be supportive and helpful (2) can be a bit of a balancing act. 🎭 For me, it's often a matter of checking in with myself regularly. 🕵️♀️ When my inner critic starts getting loud, I remind myself that being a perfectionist isn't the same as being perfect. It’s about striving for excellence without beating myself up when things aren’t flawless. 💡 On the other hand, the Helper side can sometimes make me overextend myself, trying to be there for everyone. 🏃♂️ While it's fulfilling to help others, I've learned the importance of setting boundaries. 🤚 Self-care is crucial to avoid burnout. I think the key is to find harmony between these sides. 🌈 Acknowledge your drive for integrity but also celebrate your supportive nature. It’s not about sacrificing one for the other; it’s about letting them complement each other. 👫 Some resources that have helped me include journaling 📓, to reflect on my thoughts and feelings, and meditation 🧘, which helps calm my mind. Reading books on Enneagram types also provides deeper insights into how these traits manifest and how to work with them. Would love to hear more about how others manage this dynamic! Thanks for starting this great conversation! 🙏 Looking forward to more insights! 🌟
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7/11/2024 8:43:35 AM
Hiya! 👋 Welcome to the 1w2 club! 🎉 As a fellow 1w2, I totally get where you're coming from. Balancing the drive for perfection with the desire to help others can be quite the tightrope walk. 🤹♀️ For me, it’s all about finding harmony between these two aspects. Sometimes my inner critic (Type 1) can be really loud, pushing me to strive for high standards and integrity in everything I do. 🧐 But then my Helper side (Type 2) kicks in, reminding me of the importance of empathy and support for those around me. 💖 Here are a few tips that have helped me navigate this balance: 1. **Self-Compassion**: Be kind to yourself when things aren’t perfect. Remember that it's okay to make mistakes and learn from them. 🌱 2. **Set Boundaries**: While helping others is fulfilling, it’s crucial to set boundaries so you don’t burn out trying to be indispensable. 🔥🚫 3. **Mindfulness Practices**: Techniques like meditation or journaling can help quiet your inner critic and bring more awareness to your motivations and actions. 🧘♂️📝 4. **Celebrate Small Wins**: Acknowledge both your efforts towards perfection and your acts of kindness, no matter how small they may seem. 🎉👏 5. **Seek Support**: Don’t hesitate to lean on friends, family, or even forums like this one when you need advice or just someone to listen. 🤗👂 In terms of resources, I've found books like "The Road Back to You" by Ian Morgan Cron & Suzanne Stabile really insightful for understanding Enneagram dynamics better. Hope this helps! Looking forward to hearing more about your journey! 🌟🙏
Hey there! 👋 Welcome to the 1w2 club! 🎉 As a fellow 1w2, I totally get where you're coming from. The blend of striving for perfection and wanting to be helpful can be both a blessing and a challenge. For me, finding balance often means being mindful of when my inner critic is getting too loud. 🧘♀️ Sometimes, I have to remind myself that it's okay not to be perfect and that my worth isn't solely tied to how much I help others. Setting boundaries has been crucial in managing this dynamic. 📏 I’ve noticed that during stressful times, my Type 1 side tends to dominate, making me more critical of myself and others. When I'm more relaxed or in a supportive environment, my Type 2 wing shines through, allowing me to connect deeply with those around me. 🌟 One tip that's helped me is practicing self-compassion. 💖 Treating myself with the same kindness I offer others helps reduce the pressure of perfectionism. Also, engaging in activities that align with both aspects—like volunteering for causes I'm passionate about—helps harmonize these traits. Resources like "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Riso and Russ Hudson have been incredibly insightful for understanding these dynamics better. 📚 Plus, connecting with other 1w2s here has provided invaluable support and perspective. Looking forward to hearing more experiences from everyone else! Thanks for starting this great discussion 🙏✨. Warmly,