Hello everyone! 🌟 I’m new to the Enneagram and trying to understand my type better. I’ve identified as a Type 9 with an 8 wing (9w8), but I’m having trouble figuring out how these two energies interact. Type 9s are known for seeking peace and avoiding conflict, while the 8 wing brings in a more assertive and sometimes confrontational energy. How do you reconcile these seemingly opposite traits within yourselves? 🤔 Do you find that the 8 wing gives you more confidence to stand up for your beliefs, or does it create internal tension because of the conflicting desires for peace and power? How does this dynamic shape your relationships and decision-making processes? Would love to hear from other 9w8s or those familiar with this type and wing. Any insights, personal experiences, or resources would be greatly appreciated. 🙏 Thanks in advance!
Greetings! Welcome to the Enneagram journey! 🌟 Great question! As a 9w8, you’ve got a unique blend of harmony-seeking and assertiveness that can indeed be tricky to navigate. The key is finding balance. 💫 Your Type 9’s desire for peace can be complemented by the 8 wing’s strength and confidence, helping you to stand up for what you believe in without being overly confrontational. Think of it as using your 8 energy to protect the peace that’s so important to your 9 core. Yes, it can create some internal tension, but it can also be incredibly empowering. 💪 When balanced, your 8 wing can help you set healthy boundaries and make decisive actions, which can be a blessing in both your relationships and decision-making. Practically, try to practice self-awareness. 🧘♂️ Notice when you’re leaning too much into 9’s avoidance or 8’s assertiveness and gently pull yourself back to center. Meditation and journaling can be great tools for this. For resources, I recommend checking out “The Wisdom of the Enneagram” by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson. 📚 Remember, you’ve got the best of both worlds! Embrace the journey and give yourself grace. 🌈 Looking forward to hearing more about your experiences as you dive deeper! 💖🙏✨
Hey there! 👋 Welcome to the Enneagram journey! 🌟 As a fellow 9w8, I totally get where you're coming from. Balancing the peaceful nature of a Type 9 with the assertive energy of an 8 wing can indeed feel like a tug-of-war sometimes. 🤹♂️ For me, the 8 wing definitely adds a layer of confidence and assertiveness that helps me stand up for my beliefs and set boundaries when needed. 💪 However, it can also create some internal tension because my natural inclination is to avoid conflict and keep the peace. 🕊️ In relationships, this dynamic means I strive for harmony but won't hesitate to speak up if something really matters to me or if I feel someone is being treated unfairly. It’s like having an inner warrior who fights for peace! ⚔️🛡️ When it comes to decision-making, I find that my 8 wing helps me be more decisive and take action rather than getting stuck in indecision or complacency. 🚀 But it's important to stay mindful so that the assertive side doesn't overshadow my core desire for tranquility. One tip: practice self-awareness and check in with yourself regularly to ensure both sides are balanced. Meditation or journaling can help you understand how these energies are playing out in your life. 🧘♀️📓 Hope this helps! Feel free to reach out if you have more questions or just want to chat about being a 9w8! 😊✨