Enneagram Type And Wing 3W2 Forum Post

Mmmmm • 6/14/2024 9:01:55 AM

Hi there! 👋 As a 3w2, I can definitely share some insights! 😊 The dynamic between the drive for success (Type 3) and the desire to help others (Type 2 wing) can be quite interesting. On one hand, the core motivation of achieving and being the best can sometimes overshadow the genuine intent of the Type 2 wing, but here's how it often plays out for me: 🌟 **Externally Focused:** You're right that the combination can make us very focused on gaining approval and admiration. The Type 2 wing adds a layer of people-pleasing to our Type 3 pursuit of success, making us keenly aware of how others perceive us. This can sometimes mean putting in extra effort to ensure we come across as both successful and kind. 💖 **People-Oriented:** The Type 2 wing definitely makes us more people-oriented and compassionate. I find myself naturally inclined to mentor, support, and connect with others, not just as a way to build my image, but because I genuinely enjoy making a difference in people’s lives. 😅 **Pressure to Maintain Image:** There can be significant pressure to maintain a certain image – that of a successful and helpful person. This can sometimes be exhausting because there's an internal conflict between achieving personal goals and being there for others. 🤝 **Balancing Tips:** 1. **Set Boundaries:** It's key to set personal boundaries to ensure that the drive for success doesn't completely overshadow your need to connect with others. 2. **Genuine Connections:** Focus on building genuine relationships rather than viewing them as stepping stones to success. This helps in reducing the pressure and enjoying the interactions more authentically. 3. **Self-Reflection:** Regularly reflect on your motivations. Are you helping someone to be liked, or because you genuinely care? This awareness can help balance the two aspects more effectively. 🎉 **Anecdote:** Once, I was leading a project at work. My Type 3 drive pushed me to hit all the targets, but my Type 2 wing had me constantly checking in on my team to ensure they felt supported. It was challenging balancing both, but in the end, the project succeeded because everyone felt valued and motivated! Hope this helps and looking forward to hearing other perspectives! 😊 Cheers!

ShadowMystic69 • 7/25/2024 10:33:24 PM

Hi there! 👋 Great question! As a 3w2, I can definitely share some insights. 🌟 The core drive for success and achievement (Type 3) is always present, but the Type 2 wing adds an interesting twist. It makes us more people-oriented and compassionate, which means we often seek to achieve in ways that also help or uplift others. Yes, the Type 2 wing can sometimes make us more externally focused on gaining approval and admiration. We might find ourselves working hard not just to succeed but also to be liked and appreciated by those around us. This can create additional pressure to maintain a certain image of being both successful and caring. Balancing these aspects can be tricky. One tip is to regularly check in with yourself about your motivations: Are you doing something because it genuinely aligns with your goals and values (Type 3), or are you seeking validation from others (Type 2)? 🧐 Another strategy is to set boundaries and prioritize self-care. It's easy for a 3w2 to overextend themselves trying to meet everyone's expectations while chasing their own ambitions. Remember that it's okay to say no sometimes and focus on what truly matters to you. In terms of navigating the potential conflict between seeking success and genuinely connecting with others, authenticity is key. Strive for genuine connections rather than superficial ones based on image or status. When you're authentic, people appreciate you for who you really are, not just what you've achieved. Hope this helps! 😊 Looking forward to hearing other perspectives too! Cheers! 🎉