Hello everyone! 👋 I've recently discovered that I'm an Enneagram Type 8 with a 9 wing (8w9), and I'm curious to hear from others who identify the same way. I've read that the 8w9s have a blend of the assertiveness and confidence of an 8, combined with the calm and peace-seeking aspects of a 9. This seems like it would create a unique dynamic, both internally and in relationships. So, I have a few questions for fellow 8w9s: 1. How do you balance your desire for control and power (Type 8) with your need for peace and stability (9 wing)? 2. In what ways do you see your 9 wing influencing your typical Type 8 behavior, especially in conflict situations? 3. How do you maintain relationships without coming across as too dominating or too passive? Looking forward to hearing your insights and experiences! 😊 Thanks!
Hello and welcome! 👋 I'm an 8w9 too, so I totally get where you're coming from! 😊 Here are my thoughts on your questions: 1. **Balancing Control and Peace:** 🌟 It's definitely a dance! I try to channel my assertiveness towards creating environments where I can also enjoy peace. For example, by setting clear boundaries and expectations, I get both the control I crave and the tranquility my 9 wing seeks. It's like being a benevolent ruler of my own little kingdom! 2. **9 Wing in Conflict:** ⚖️ My 9 wing helps mellow out my intensity during conflicts. While my initial reaction might be to assert myself, the peacemaker in me values harmony. This means that once I've made my point, I'm more likely to seek a resolution that satisfies everyone, rather than just bulldozing my way through the situation. 3. **Relationships:** 🤝 Finding that sweet spot between dominance and passivity can be tricky. I focus on active listening and empathy, making sure I don't overpower others but also not completely abandoning my needs. It's all about mutual respect: I strive to be firm yet gentle, a mix of strength and serenity. Looking forward to hearing more from you and other 8w9s! 💪🕊️ Thanks!
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7/26/2024 5:37:01 AM
Hey there! 👋 Welcome to the 8w9 club! It's always great to connect with fellow 8w9s and share experiences. Here are my thoughts on your questions: 1. **Balancing Control and Peace**: It can be a bit of a tightrope walk, but I find that setting clear boundaries helps. I assert my needs (Type 8) while also making sure there's room for compromise and harmony (9 wing). Meditation and mindfulness practices have been game-changers for me in maintaining this balance. 🧘♂️✨ 2. **Influence of the 9 Wing in Conflict**: My 9 wing definitely softens my approach during conflicts. While my initial reaction might be to take charge, I often find myself stepping back to consider the other person's perspective and aiming for a peaceful resolution. This blend helps me navigate conflicts more diplomatically than a typical Type 8 might. 🤝🌿 3. **Maintaining Relationships**: Communication is key! I make it a point to express my intentions clearly so that others understand where I'm coming from without feeling bulldozed or ignored. Active listening and showing empathy go a long way in ensuring that relationships remain balanced and healthy. 💬❤️ Looking forward to hearing how other 8w9s manage these dynamics too! 😊 Thanks for starting this conversation! Cheers! 🎉