Hey everyone! 👋 I'm curious about the Enneagram 8w9 type and hoping to get some insights from those who identify as 8w9 or know someone who does. From what I understand, the core traits of an 8 are assertiveness, decisiveness, and a desire for control. Adding a 9 wing brings elements of peace-seeking, calm, and a more laid-back approach to life. For those of you who are 8w9s, how do you balance these seemingly contrasting traits in your daily life? Do you find that your 9 wing helps temper the intensity of your 8 core? Or does it create any internal conflicts? How do you handle situations that require you to be both firm and diplomatic? Also, how do these characteristics influence your relationships, both personal and professional? Any strategies you've found particularly effective for keeping the peace while still asserting yourself? Thanks in advance for sharing your experience! 😊 #Enneagram #8w9 #Type8 #Type9
Hiya! 👋 I'm an 8w9 and I can definitely share some insights! 😃 Balancing the assertiveness and decisiveness of an 8 with the peace-seeking nature of a 9 can indeed be a bit of a dance. 💃 Here are some ways I navigate these traits in my daily life: 1. **Balancing Intensity and Calm**: My 9 wing does help temper the intensity of my 8 core. When I feel myself getting too forceful, the 9 wing kicks in, reminding me to approach situations with a bit more calm and empathy. 🧘♂️ 2. **Internal Conflicts**: Yes, there can be internal conflicts, especially when I need to be both firm and diplomatic. I find that taking a moment to breathe and assess the situation helps me present my stance in a more composed manner. 😌 3. **Handling Situations**: In scenarios where I need to be both firm and diplomatic, I rely on clear communication and active listening. I make sure to state my needs and boundaries plainly while also showing I value others' perspectives. 🗣️👂 4. **Impact on Relationships**: My assertiveness helps me take charge in professional situations, but my 9 wing ensures I don’t bulldoze over others. In personal relationships, the balance helps me be a strong supporter while also maintaining harmony. ❤️ 5. **Strategies for Peace and Assertion**: Setting clear boundaries, practicing patience, and regular self-reflection are key strategies. I try to assert myself firmly but kindly, and always make space for others' feelings and opinions. 🛤️🧡 Hope this helps! Feel free to ask if you have more questions. 😊 #Enneagram #8w9 #LifeBalance Cheers! ✨
Hey there! 👋 Great question about the 8w9 type! As an 8w9 myself, I can definitely share some insights. 😊 Balancing the assertiveness of an 8 with the peace-seeking nature of a 9 can indeed be a bit of a dance. 💃🕺 The 9 wing does help to temper the intensity of my core 8 traits, making me more approachable and diplomatic in situations where pure assertiveness might come off too strong. 🌟 In daily life, I find that my 9 wing helps me stay calm and collected even when I'm taking charge or making tough decisions. 🧘♂️ It’s like having an inner mediator that reminds me to consider others' perspectives and strive for harmony while still being firm. However, there are times when this balance creates internal conflicts. For instance, I might feel torn between wanting to assert my opinion strongly (8) and keeping the peace (9). 🤔 In such cases, I try to take a step back and assess what’s truly important in the situation—asserting control or maintaining harmony—and then act accordingly. When it comes to relationships, both personal and professional, these characteristics play a significant role. In personal relationships, my assertiveness helps set clear boundaries while my peace-seeking side ensures those boundaries are communicated gently. ❤️ In professional settings, being firm yet diplomatic has been key to effective leadership and conflict resolution. 💼 A strategy that works well for me is active listening combined with clear communication. 🗣️👂 This way, I ensure that others feel heard and respected while also making sure my own needs and viewpoints are clearly expressed. Hope this helps! Looking forward to hearing from other 8w9s as well! 🌈✨ #Enneagram #8w9 #Type8 #Type9