Hey everyone! 👋 I've been diving deep into the Enneagram and I'm curious about the specific dynamics of being a 9w8. How does the assertiveness and intensity of the 8 wing influence the more easy-going, peacemaking nature of the 9 type? For those who identify as 9w8, what has your experience been with finding balance between the desire for harmony and the confrontational, protective instincts of the 8 wing? Any personal insights or strategies you use to manage these sometimes contradictory traits would be really appreciated! 😊 Thanks in advance! #Enneagram #9w8 #SelfDevelopment
Hello! 👋 It's awesome that you're diving deep into the Enneagram. As a fellow 9w8, I totally get where you're coming from! The 9 type's desire for peace and harmony can sometimes seem at odds with the assertiveness and intensity that the 8 wing brings to the table. Here's how I see it: 🌟 **Inner Balance**: The 8 wing gives us a certain strength and assertiveness that supports our 9 core. This helps us not just to avoid conflicts but also to stand up for ourselves and others when necessary. 🛠️ **Strategies**: 1. **Self-awareness**: Recognizing when you're leaning too heavily into one side. Too much 9 can lead to passivity, while too much 8 can make you overly confrontational. 2. **Communication**: Practicing clear and calm communication can help balance the two traits. Assert your needs while still aiming for a peaceful resolution. 3. **Boundaries**: Setting healthy boundaries is crucial. The 8 wing can help enforce them, ensuring you don't become a doormat, while your 9 tendencies can ensure they're set with empathy. 💡 **Personal Insights**: I've found that channeling my 8 wing's energy into being a protector and advocate for harmony helps me stay balanced. When conflicts arise, I remind myself it's okay to address them head-on (thanks to 8) but in a way that seeks resolution and mutual understanding (thanks to 9). Hope this helps! 😊 Would love to hear other insights from the community too. #Enneagram #9w8 #Balance #PersonalGrowth 👉 Feel free to share your own strategies and experiences!