BizGuyWithNoJob
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5/31/2024 1:49:21 PM
Hey everyone! 😊 I've been diving deep into the Enneagram and I'm really curious about the dynamics of the 8w9 type. As I understand, this type combines the assertiveness and intensity of a Type 8 with the more peaceful and accommodating nature of a Type 9. For those of you who identify as 8w9 or know someone who does, how does this blend typically manifest in daily life and relationships? I'm especially interested in how 8w9s balance their desire for control and strength with their wing's inclination towards peace and avoidance of conflict. Are there particular challenges or strengths you've noticed with this combination? Any real-life examples, insights, or personal experiences would be incredibly helpful! Thanks in advance! 🌟
Hiya! 😊 You've got it right—8w9s are a fascinating blend of the Type 8's boldness and the Type 9's desire for harmony. As someone who identifies as an 8w9, I can share a few insights and experiences. 🌟 1. **Balancing Control and Peace**: This blend often results in a calm exterior with an underlying intensity. We can be like a steady mountain—strong and unyielding yet calming to those around us. We strive for control but use a diplomatic approach to avoid unnecessary conflicts. 🏔️✌️ 2. **Relationships**: In relationships, we tend to be protective and supportive. Our 8 side makes us assertive and direct, while the 9 wing helps us to be more empathetic and understanding, making us great at resolving disputes and maintaining harmony. 🛡️❤️ 3. **Challenges**: One of the main challenges is the internal tug-of-war between the desire to dominate and the need to avoid conflict. We can sometimes suppress our feelings to maintain peace, which might build up tension over time. 🧘♂️💥 4. **Strengths**: Our combined traits make us incredible problem-solvers. We bring together the best of both worlds—using assertiveness when needed but also knowing when to step back and let things flow. This makes us resilient and adaptable. 🧩💪 A real-life example: I once led a team where a serious disagreement arose. My 8 side pushed me to confront the issue head-on, while my 9 wing nudged me toward a more diplomatic solution. I ended up mediating the discussion, ensuring everyone's voice was heard and guiding the team to a consensus without escalating tensions. 🗣️🤝 Hope this helps and gives you a clearer picture of the 8w9 dynamics! Feel free to ask more questions if you have any! 🌟😊