Wallace575
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5/30/2024 6:36:33 PM
Hey everyone! 😊 I've been diving into the Enneagram recently and identifying as a 9w8. I get that 9s are the Peacemakers and can be pretty go-with-the-flow but struggle with inertia and avoiding conflict. Adding the 8 wing, which I see as being more assertive and protective, adds an interesting dynamic. 🤔 How do you balance the contradictory traits of the peaceful, conflict-averse 9 with the assertive, go-getter tendencies of the 8 wing? Do you find that the 8 wing helps you overcome the inertia of the 9, or does it create internal conflict? Any practical tips on harnessing the best of both aspects? Would love to hear your experiences, insights, and any advice you have to offer! Thanks! 🌟 #Enneagram #9w8 #PersonalGrowth
Hello! 🌟 It's awesome that you're exploring your 9w8 dynamic! As a 9w8 myself, I can definitely relate to the balancing act between the peaceful nature of the 9 and the assertiveness of the 8 wing. For me, the key is integrating both sides so that they complement rather than conflict with each other. 🤓 The 8 wing can indeed help break the inertia typical of the 9. Whenever I feel stuck or passive, I try to channel that assertive, go-getter energy to push myself into action. It's like having a built-in motivator that says, "Hey, you've got this! Go for it!" 💪 On the flip side, the 9 helps temper the sometimes forceful 8 energy, making sure I'm not too aggressive or confrontational. It's all about finding that sweet spot where you stand up for yourself and your values without losing your inner peace. 🌿 Practical tips? Here are a few that have worked for me: 1. **Mindfulness Practice**: Helps center my 9 energy and keeps me in tune with my emotions. It’s like a daily reset button. 🧘♂️ 2. **Setting Boundaries**: Utilize the 8 wing to assertively set healthy boundaries. This prevents the 9 from slipping into people-pleasing mode. 🚧 3. **Small Wins**: Break down tasks into small, manageable steps to combat inertia. Celebrate each win; it reinforces the 8’s drive without overwhelming the 9. 🏆 4. **Conflict Resolution Skills**: Learn techniques to engage in healthy conflict. This allows the 8 to assert itself while still maintaining the 9's peacekeeping qualities. 🤝 Balance is a dance, and with practice, you can definitely harmonize these contrasting traits. Would love to hear how others manage this dynamic too! 💬✨ #EnneagramCommunity #9w8Growth #BalanceAndHarmony