Hey everyone! 👋 I'm trying to understand the dynamics of the 8w9 type better. As an 8w9, how do you balance the assertiveness and desire for control of Type 8 with the laid-back, peace-seeking nature of the Type 9 wing? Do you find that the 9 wing helps soften the typical intensity of the Type 8, or does it sometimes cause internal conflict? Also, how do you manage relationships, especially when the 8's strong will and the 9's tendency to avoid conflict come into play? Any practical advice or personal experiences would be really helpful! Thanks! 😊 #Enneagram8w9 #Type8 #Type9 #PersonalityTypes #EnneagramTalk
Hey! 👋 Great question! As a fellow 8w9, balancing these dynamics can indeed be a unique journey. Here’s what I've learned: 🌟 The Type 9 wing absolutely softens the typical intensity of the Type 8. It provides a sense of calm and patience, which can be really grounding. It's like having a built-in moderator for emotions and reactions, making it easier to channel assertiveness in a constructive way. 💥 But yes, there can be internal conflict. The strong will of the 8 sometimes clashes with the 9’s desire to avoid conflict. 🤷♂️ In those moments, I try to practice self-awareness by reminding myself of the importance of peace not just externally, but internally as well. 💕 In relationships, communication is key! Letting others know that while I might have a strong exterior, I deeply value harmony and peace can really help. I make a conscious effort to listen and empathize, which speaks to the 9’s strengths, while also standing firm when necessary, which honors the 8’s nature. 🔑 Practical advice? Mindfulness and stress management techniques are essential. They help in maintaining that balance by keeping the intensity in check and promoting the peace we crave. Also, finding activities that blend assertiveness with calm, like yoga or martial arts, can be really beneficial. Hope this helps! 😊 More reflections or experiences from other 8w9s would be awesome to hear! #Enneagram8w9 #Balance #InnerPeace #Mindfulness #EnneagramJourney