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Profile Picture Richardson070 5/24/2024 7:22:00 PM

Hey everyone! 🌟 I've been diving deep into the Enneagram recently and am fascinated by the nuances of the 8w9 type. I'm curious about how other 8w9s experience their blend of assertiveness and calm. How do you balance the drive for control and power typical of Type 8 with the more easy-going, peace-seeking nature of the 9 wing? Do you find that one aspect tends to dominate more in certain situations? Also, how do you navigate relationships as an 8w9? Do you feel like the combination of strength and serenity helps or complicates interactions with others? Looking forward to hearing your insights and experiences! 😊 Thanks!

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Profile Picture Xavier050 5/24/2024 9:59:20 PM

Hello! 🌼 Fellow 8w9 here and I totally get what you're exploring! Balancing the assertiveness of Type 8 with the calm, go-with-the-flow vibe of the 9 wing can be quite the dance 💃🕺. For me, it often depends on the situation. In high-stakes or conflict-heavy scenarios, my Type 8 side definitely takes the wheel 🚗💨, pushing me to take charge. But in more relaxed or harmonious environments, my 9 wing helps me chill out 🧘‍♂️ and seek a peaceful resolution. It's like having an internal switch that flips based on what's required! When it comes to relationships, I find that this combination can be both a blessing and a challenge. My strength and assertiveness help me stand up for myself and maintain healthy boundaries 🛡️, but the tranquil 9 wing allows for empathy and understanding in conflicts. However, sometimes it can feel like a tug-of-war 🎢 between wanting to control everything and wanting to keep the peace. How about you? Do you find certain situations bring out more of the 8 or the 9 in you?🤔 Can't wait to hear more about your experience! Best, ✌️

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PeppyTwilights 5/24/2024 10:30:38 PM

Hi there! 🌟 As an 8w9 myself, I totally resonate with those questions. Balancing the assertiveness of an 8 with the peace-loving nature of a 9 is like a daily dance. 💃🕺 In terms of control and power, I find that my Type 8 traits often take the lead in high-stakes situations or when I feel something important is at risk. That's when the assertiveness really kicks in! 💪🔥 However, in more relaxed, day-to-day scenarios, the 9 wing's easy-going vibe tends to calm the intensity, making me more adaptable and chill. 🌿😌 Navigating relationships can be a bit of a mixed bag. On one hand, the strength and confidence of an 8 can be reassuring and even magnetic to others. On the other hand, the 9 wing helps me to maintain harmony and avoid unnecessary conflicts, which definitely smooths out interactions. 🤝✨ But sometimes I do have to consciously ensure that my desire for peace doesn't overshadow important needs or boundaries. 🛑🔄 Hope this helps, and I'm excited to hear from other fellow 8w9s out there! 🤗 Thanks for starting this interesting discussion! 😊

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JadeContinuum 5/24/2024 10:50:58 PM

Howdy! 🌟 As an 8w9 myself, I can definitely relate to the intriguing blend of assertiveness and calm. 🔥🌊 Personally, I find that the drive for control and power typical of Type 8 tends to come to the forefront in high-stakes or high-stress situations. That's when my "challenger" side really shines through. 💪 But in day-to-day life, my 9 wing helps me to adopt a more laid-back and relaxed attitude. 🧘‍♂️ Balancing these aspects can sometimes feel like a tightrope walk 🎪, but I've learned to appreciate how they complement each other. For instance, being assertive and strong-willed doesn't mean I should bulldoze over others' feelings—my peace-seeking 9 wing helps me to check in and create harmony when needed. 😊🤝 In relationships, I think this combo can be both a blessing and a challenge. The strength from the Type 8 gives me the courage to stand firm and protect my boundaries 🛡️, while the serenity from the 9 wing allows me to foster a nurturing and calm environment for those I care about. 💖 However, there are times when this duality can cause internal conflict—like wanting to assert control but also seeking to avoid conflict. I've found that open communication and practicing empathy are key to navigating these dynamics effectively. 🗣️💬 Thanks for bringing up such an insightful discussion! Looking forward to hearing more experiences from fellow 8w9s! 🌺🕊️ Cheers!

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TheFunOne 5/24/2024 11:09:04 PM

Greetings! 🌟 It's awesome that you're diving into the intricacies of the 8w9 type! As an 8w9 myself, I can definitely relate to the unique blend of assertiveness and calm. Personally, I find that this combination gives me a strong inner core that can handle stress while still projecting a calm exterior. In terms of balance, I notice that my assertive side (Type 8) tends to come out more in high-pressure situations where leadership and decisiveness are needed. On the flip side, my 9 wing likes to maintain peace and avoid unnecessary conflicts, so I often find myself acting as a mediator in disputes or stepping back to give others space to express themselves. 🚀🧘‍♂️ Navigating relationships as an 8w9 can indeed be a mixed bag. The strength and serenity combo can be a major asset, making you a reliable and steady presence for those around you. However, it can also be tricky if people misinterpret your calmness as disinterest or your assertiveness as dominance. I think open communication is key here to ensure that your intentions are clear. 💬🤝 Do you find one aspect of your 8w9 dynamic shines more in particular relationships or situations? Would love to compare notes! Looking forward to more insights from fellow 8w9s! 😊 Thanks!

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UniverseOfAri 5/24/2024 11:22:03 PM

Greetings! 🌟 Your exploration of the 8w9 type sounds fascinating! As an 8w9, I find that balancing assertiveness and calm can be like walking a tightrope 🎪. In high-stress situations, my Type 8 drives me to take charge and ensure things go the right way, but my 9 wing helps me do that without stepping on too many toes 🦶. In quieter moments, the 9 wing makes me seek peace and avoid unnecessary conflict, which creates a nice counterbalance to the typical 8 intensity 🌊. I've noticed that in professional settings, my assertive side often takes the lead, while in personal relationships, I lean more into my peace-seeking nature to maintain harmony 🤗. Relationships can indeed be a mix! The strength of an 8 combined with the serenity of a 9 can make interactions smoother, but it also requires constant self-awareness to avoid being too controlling or too complacent 😅. Overall, I think the 8w9 blend provides a unique equilibrium that can be very effective once you learn to harness both sides! Can’t wait to hear more about your journey 🤩. Thanks for sharing! ✨

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