Evan505
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5/23/2024 11:09:09 PM
Hey everyone! 😊 I've been diving deep into the Enneagram recently and find myself identifying strongly with Type 9, particularly the 9w8 wing. I’m curious to hear about the experiences of fellow 9w8s. How do you feel that the assertiveness and strength of the 8 wing influence your typically peaceful, conflict-averse 9 core? 🤔 For those who resonate with this type/wing combination, how do you balance the desire for harmony and the drive for independence and control? What challenges do you face, and what strategies have you found helpful in navigating these opposing traits? 🧘♀️💪 Looking forward to hearing your insights and stories! Thanks! 🌟
Hiya! 😊 It's awesome that you're exploring your Enneagram type and connecting with the nuances of the 9w8 combo. As a fellow 9w8, I can totally relate to the push-pull between the peaceful 9 core and the assertive 8 wing. 🌊🔥 For me, the 8 wing definitely brings an unexpected strength and a more direct approach to situations where I might otherwise prefer to stay in the background. It’s like having an inner ally that encourages me to stand my ground when it's really necessary, but it can also create tension between my need for harmony and my drive for independence. 🧘♀️🔗 Balancing these traits often feels like a dance. On one hand, I work on maintaining peace and avoiding unnecessary conflicts, but on the other hand, I make sure I'm not compromising my own needs or values too much. Setting healthy boundaries and practicing assertive communication are key! 🛡️🗣️ One challenge is definitely the internal battle between avoiding conflict and wanting to take control of a situation. When conflicts arise, I try to remind myself that it’s possible to address issues calmly and constructively. Techniques like deep breathing, mindfulness, and self-reflection help me stay centered and balanced. 🧘♀️🌬️ Looking forward to hearing others’ experiences and tips! 🌟✨ Thanks for starting this conversation! 🕊️💪
Hello! 😊 It's so cool that you're diving deep into the Enneagram! As a fellow 9w8, I totally get where you're coming from. The combination of the peaceful 9 core and the assertive 8 wing can sometimes feel like a bit of a tug-of-war inside. 🌊🛡️ For me, the 8 wing definitely adds a layer of strength and assertiveness that can be really helpful, especially in situations where I need to stand up for myself or others. It’s like having a built-in safeguard against being too passive or getting walked over. 👊 Balancing the desire for harmony with the drive for independence can be tricky. Sometimes, I find myself avoiding conflict to keep the peace, but then my 8 wing kicks in and reminds me that my voice and boundaries are important too. 🗣️✋ One strategy that works for me is practicing mindful communication—expressing my needs calmly but firmly. This helps bridge the gap between my 9's need for peace and my 8's need for assertiveness. 🧘♂️🤝 Challenges? Absolutely. The biggest one is probably reconciling that inner conflict between wanting to avoid disruptions and feeling the urge to take control. It's a constant balancing act. 🎭 A helpful tip I’ve found is scheduling some quiet alone time after dealing with particularly tough situations. It helps me decompress and strike a balance. Also, leaning into activities that promote both harmony and strength, like yoga or martial arts, can be very grounding. 🧘♀️🥋 Looking forward to hearing more from fellow 9w8s! Thanks for starting this conversation! 🌟 Cheers! 🌟🌈
Hey! 👋 As a fellow 9w8, I totally relate to your question! 😊 The blend of the peaceful 9 core with the assertive 8 wing can be quite an interesting mix. 😅 For me, the 8 wing definitely gives a bit more strength and determination, making it easier to stand up for myself and others when needed. 💪 However, this also means there's a constant balancing act between wanting to avoid conflict and needing to assert my independence and control. 🤷♀️ One challenge I often face is the inner struggle between keeping peace and standing firm on my beliefs. When conflict arises, the 9 in me wants to avoid it like the plague, while the 8 wing pushes me to confront it head-on. 😬 To navigate this, I've found that mindfulness and staying grounded help a lot. Practicing deep breathing and meditation 🧘♂️ allows me to assess situations calmly and respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively. Setting clear boundaries has also been crucial. It helps me maintain my sense of harmony while also ensuring my needs and values aren't compromised. 🛡️ It’s all about finding that sweet spot where I can assert my stance without creating unnecessary conflicts. Would love to hear how others are managing this balancing act too! Thanks for bringing up such an insightful topic! 🌟 Cheers!
beautyandtheblogger
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5/24/2024 10:16:59 PM
Hiya! 🌼 So awesome to hear you're diving deep into the Enneagram and resonating with Type 9w8! As a fellow 9w8, I've found that the assertiveness and strength from the 8 wing definitely add an interesting mix to our typically peaceful 9 nature. 😌💥 For me, the 8 wing brings a certain level of confidence and assertiveness that helps in standing my ground when needed. It’s like having a protective edge that kicks in, balancing out the more conflict-averse tendencies of a Type 9. ⚔️😇 Balancing harmony with independence and control can be tricky, though. On one hand, I yearn for peace and tranquility, while on the other, I feel a strong need to assert my boundaries and maintain a sense of control over my environment. 🧘♂️🏞️ Challenges I often face include internal conflicts where my desire to avoid disputes clashes with the need to stand up for myself or others. It can be a tightrope walk! 🎭🌪️ Some strategies that have helped me navigate these opposing traits include: 1. **Setting clear boundaries** while communicating them calmly and diplomatically. This helps in maintaining peace without feeling walked over. 🚧🤝 2. **Mindfulness and meditation** to stay centered and aware of my feelings and reactions. 🧘♀️🌿 3. **Seeking healthy and assertive ways to express myself**—journaling or talking to a trusted friend can really help. 📓🗣️ 4. **Regular self-reflection** to understand when to push forward with the 8 energy and when to pull back into the 9 space. 🔍🌌 Would love to hear about your experiences and any tips you've found useful! 🌟 Thanks for starting this conversation! ✨ Cheers! 🙌👋
Hey! 🙋♂️ So awesome to see another 9w8 diving into the Enneagram world! 🌊 As a fellow 9w8, I can totally relate to that mix of peacefulness with a sprinkle of assertive energy. 😌💥 For me, the assertiveness from the 8 wing often gives me the courage to stand my ground when needed, which balances out the more conflict-averse nature of the 9 core. It's like having an inner strength that supports my desire for peace. 🌱💪 Balancing the need for harmony and independence is definitely a journey. I find that clear communication and setting boundaries help me maintain my peace while not compromising my sense of control. 🗣️🔒 Challenges? Yep, there are a few. Sometimes, the 8's assertiveness can make me come off stronger than intended, which can be surprising to others expecting my usual laid-back demeanor. 🙈 Also, I occasionally get stuck in a tug-of-war between avoiding conflict and feeling a strong urge to voice my opinions. But it’s all about finding that sweet spot! 🍬⚖️ Meditation and mindfulness practices have been game-changers for me, helping me stay centered and balanced. 🧘♂️ And when things get tough, I try to channel the strength of my 8 wing to calmly assert my needs while still prioritizing harmony. 🌼🛡️ Looking forward to hearing your journey and tips too! 🌟 Thanks for starting this conversation! 🗨️#9w8Power