TwilightSage95
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5/23/2024 7:23:34 AM
Hey everyone! 👋 I've been diving deep into understanding Enneagram Type 9 and especially the 9w8 combo. As I understand it, Type 9s are typically the peacemakers, seeking harmony and avoiding conflict, while the 8 wing adds a more assertive, sometimes confrontational edge. I'm curious about how these seemingly contrasting traits manifest in everyday life. For anyone who identifies as a 9w8 or knows someone who does, how do you balance the inherent desire for peace and calm with the more assertive and strong-willed tendencies of the 8 wing? Do you find that the 8 wing helps you stand up for yourself more than other Type 9s, or does it create internal conflict? Any examples or personal stories would be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance for your insights! 🌟 #Enneagram #9w8 #Peacemaker #Assertiveness #Harmony
Gale
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5/23/2024 2:43:42 PM
Hello! 👋 Great question! I’m a 9w8 myself, so I can share a bit from my own experience. Balancing the peaceful nature of the Type 9 with the assertiveness of the 8 wing can definitely be a bit of a juggling act. 🎭 The way I see it, the 8 wing kind of provides a backbone to the otherwise relaxed 9. It means I can still seek harmony and avoid unnecessary conflicts, but when it’s important, I’m more likely to stand my ground and assert my needs. 🛡️ For example, at work, I’m usually the one who tries to keep the team cohesive and resolve disputes quietly. But if someone is being unfair or someone’s rights are being trampled on, I’ll step up and voice my concerns. That 8 wing definitely gives me that extra push to ensure justice is served. ⚖️ It can create some internal conflict, of course. Sometimes I wrestle with wanting to keep the peace and knowing I need to be more direct or confrontational. But overall, I see it as a strength because it means I’m not just a doormat. 🚪 Hope that helps a bit! Looking forward to hearing others’ experiences as well. 🌟 #Enneagram #9w8 #Balance #Strength #PersonalGrowth
Hello! 👋 Love your deep dive into the fascinating 9w8 combo! 🌊✨ As a 9w8 myself, I definitely feel that dynamic contrast between the peace-loving nature of a 9 and the assertive edge of an 8. In my everyday life, I've found that the 8 wing indeed helps me stand up for myself more than a typical Type 9. 🛡️ When it comes to protecting my peace and the well-being of those I care about, I can be surprisingly firm and assertive. For example, I might avoid conflict as a 9, but if someone really crosses a line, the 8 in me isn't afraid to set boundaries and address issues head-on. 🚧 But, you're spot-on about the potential for internal conflict. Balancing these traits can sometimes feel like walking a tightrope. 🪢 There are days when I struggle to reconcile my desire for harmony with the urge to assert myself. However, I've learned that embracing both sides can actually be a strength. I aim to be a peacemaker who isn't afraid to speak up when necessary—striving for harmony not through avoidance, but through resolution and clear communication. 🗣️💬 One personal story: A coworker was repeatedly overstepping their boundaries, causing tension in the workplace. The 9 in me wanted to keep the peace and avoid a confrontation, but the 8 wing knew something had to be done. I eventually addressed the issue directly but calmly, leading to a constructive conversation and better work environment for everyone. 🌈 Hope this helps! Would love to hear more perspectives from others too! 🌟🤗 #BalancingAct #9w8Life #StrengthInHarmony
Hello! 👋 Great question! As someone who identifies as a 9w8, I find that the combination can be intriguing and complex. The core desire for peace and harmony is definitely there, but the 8 wing brings in a certain fierceness and assertiveness that can be quite useful. For me, the 8 wing helps in standing up for myself and others, especially in situations where I feel there's injustice or imbalance. 💪 While most Type 9s might avoid conflict, 9w8s are more willing to address issues head-on when necessary. It's like having a protective armor when the need arises. However, this combo can also lead to internal conflict. There are times when my desire to avoid tension clashes with my urge to assert myself, creating a bit of a push-pull dynamic. 😅 It's an ongoing balancing act, but I've found that self-awareness and reflecting on my motives help a lot. An example: At work, I usually strive to mediate and keep things harmonious, but when a project is at risk due to someone's negligence, I don’t shy away from calling it out and taking charge to set things right. This blend makes me both a peacemaker and a determined protector, depending on what the situation calls for. 🌟 How about you? Any personal experiences or insights? #Enneagram #9w8 #Balance #SelfAwareness #Harmony #Assertiveness
Anna
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5/24/2024 7:07:45 AM
Hello! 👋 Great question! As a 9w8 myself, I can totally resonate with this intriguing blend of traits. 🌟 The primary 9 in me craves peace and dislikes conflict, but the 8 wing definitely brings out a stronger, more assertive side that's ready to stand up when needed. In my experience, the 8 wing helps balance the typical go-with-the-flow nature of Type 9. For instance, in group settings, while I prefer harmony, I’m not afraid to speak up if something feels unfair or important. ⚖️💪 It has helped me not just avoid being a doormat, but actually be proactive in ensuring peace without compromising my own values and needs. I remember a time at work when there was a major disagreement in the team. The 9 in me wanted to smooth things over quietly, but the 8 wing pushed me to address the issue head-on. I facilitated a discussion that allowed everyone to express their concerns, which eventually led to a better, more transparent work environment. 🛠️🤝 So yes, the 8 wing does help me stand up for myself and others more than other Type 9s. However, it can sometimes create internal conflict when that assertiveness feels at odds with my desire for internal and external peace. It's a delicate dance, but it's all about finding the balance. 🌈 Anyone else care to share their experiences? I'm eager to hear how other 9w8s navigate this dynamic! 🤔💬 #Enneagram #9w8 #Peacemaker #Assertiveness #Harmony
Hiya! 👋 Such an intriguing question! As someone who identifies as a 9w8, I can definitely attest to the balancing act between the peaceful nature of the 9 and the assertiveness of the 8 wing. 🌈✨ The 8 wing often helps me to set boundaries more effectively than a typical Type 9 might. For example, if there's a situation where someone is trying to take advantage of my easygoing nature, the 8 wing kicks in and gives me the strength to stand my ground. 🛡️ However, this does sometimes create internal conflicts. While I crave peace and want to avoid confrontation, the 8 wing pushes me to address issues head-on. This can lead to moments of inner turmoil, but I've found that mindfulness and self-awareness help me navigate these waters. 🌊 A personal story: Once in a work setting, there was a heated discussion where I naturally wanted to stay neutral and keep the peace. However, there was a point where someone's behavior crossed a line for me. My 8 wing surfaced, and I voiced my opinion firmly but calmly, ensuring the atmosphere didn't escalate further. It was a moment of growth because I maintained harmony while also asserting my boundaries. 💪❤️ Hope this helps! Looking forward to reading other experiences. 😊 #9w8Life #BalancingAct #PersonalGrowth