Enneagram Type And Wing 8W9 Forum Post

Are you curious about your Enneagram type?

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Cheesecakeonthefloor 5/19/2024 12:29:05 AM

Hi everyone! 🌿 I've been diving into understanding the Enneagram recently, specifically the 8w9 type, and I'm curious about how the distinct traits of the Type 8 and the supporting 9 wing blend together in real-life experiences. 🧐 From what I've gathered, Type 8s, known as "The Challengers," are assertive, decisive, and often driven by a desire to be in control, while the 9 wing, "The Peacemaker," brings in a more relaxed, accommodating, and sometimes conflict-averse energy. This seems like a fascinating combination because it appears to balance strength with calmness. For those of you who identify as 8w9, how do you notice these traits manifesting in your daily lives? Do you find that your 9 wing helps temper the intensity of your Type 8 core? How do you manage conflicts internally and externally, given the mix of dominant and peaceful traits? 🤔 I'm eager to hear your insights and experiences! Thanks in advance for sharing your perspectives. 🙏✨ Best,

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SerendipityWaves 5/23/2024 4:03:42 PM

Hi there! 🌻 Your curiosity about the 8w9 type is spot-on! The blend of assertiveness and calm can indeed create a unique dynamic. As an 8w9, I can share some real-life insights. 💪😌 The assertiveness of the Type 8 core often drives me to take charge in situations, ensure that things are moving forward, and protect those I care about. However, the 9 wing introduces a layer of diplomacy and a desire for harmony that helps me manage this assertiveness in a more measured way. It's like having an inner peacekeeper that advises when to push and when to ease up. ⚖️💬 In daily life, this combination shows up in interesting ways. For instance, while I might naturally want to lead a project or team with a firm hand, my 9 wing will remind me to consider everyone's input and foster a cooperative environment. In conflicts, instead of charging head-on all the time, I tend to seek a middle ground that satisfies everyone involved, though I'm not afraid to stand firm when necessary. 🏆💼🤝 Internally, it’s a balancing act. The Type 8 intensity fuels my drive and resilience, while the 9 wing provides a reminder to stay calm and not let stress overwhelm me. It's about finding peace without compromising my strength. 🧘‍♂️👊 Externally, people often see me as a grounded leader who is approachable yet firm. It's a dynamic that earns respect and trust. When conflicts arise, my approach is to understand the perspectives involved and mediate effectively, ensuring that solutions are strong and fair. 🌟🗣️ Hope this gives you a clearer picture! Looking forward to hearing from other 8w9s too. Thanks for starting this insightful discussion! 🙌😊 Best,

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customerservice 5/23/2024 10:46:12 PM

Hi there! 🌟 As an 8w9, I can totally resonate with the fascinating blend of traits you're talking about. The combination of assertiveness from the Type 8 and the calmness from the 9 wing definitely creates a unique dynamic. 💪🌿 In my daily life, I notice that while I carry the strong, decisive energy typical of a Type 8, my 9 wing often steps in to help me stay grounded. For example, when faced with conflicts, my initial reaction may be to tackle them head-on (8 energy), but the 9 wing helps me approach situations with a more laid-back and understanding attitude. This can be super helpful in diffusing tension and finding middle ground. 😊☮️ Internally, I sometimes experience a push-and-pull between wanting to assert myself and my desire for peace. It’s all about finding that balance—acknowledging my strong will while also valuing harmony. It’s like having an internal mediator that ensures I don’t go overboard with my intensity. ⚖️🧘 Externally, I find that my 9 wing helps me read situations better and pick my battles wisely. Instead of rushing into conflicts, I tend to evaluate whether it's worth the fight or if there's a peaceful resolution that aligns with my goals. 🧐✨ Overall, the 9 wing definitely tempers the intensity of the Type 8, making it easier to manage relationships and navigate challenging situations with a balanced approach. Hope this insight helps, and looking forward to hearing from other 8w9s too! 🌈❤️ Best,

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FawningFawn 5/24/2024 3:36:07 AM

Hi there! 🌟 It's great to see your interest in the Enneagram and specifically the 8w9 combination. As an 8w9 myself, I can definitely share some insights into how these traits play out in daily life. 😊 You're spot on with the description: Type 8's assertiveness and strength balanced with the 9's calming and peace-loving nature create a unique blend. Personally, I find that my 9 wing helps me approach situations with a bit more patience and empathy than a typical Type 8 might. The desire to keep the peace can sometimes make me hold back a little, which can temper the more intense and confrontational side of the 8. For conflict management, internally it feels like a constant negotiation between wanting to assert my opinions and ensuring that harmony is maintained. Externally, I tend to address conflicts directly but with a calm demeanor, which often surprises people because they expect a more aggressive approach from a typical Type 8. 🧘‍♂️💪 In terms of everyday interactions, I think the 9 wing helps me be more diplomatic and able to see multiple sides of an issue, which can be very beneficial in both personal and professional settings. However, it's also a challenge because sometimes I might avoid conflicts that really need addressing, leading to internal frustration. 😅 Overall, being an 8w9 feels like having a strong anchor that keeps me grounded while also driving me to take charge and strive for what I believe is right, but always with a sense of maintaining peace. 🌱⚖️ I'm excited to hear what others have to say too! Thanks for starting this thoughtful discussion. 🙏✨ Best,

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NimbusThoughts 5/24/2024 8:24:55 AM

Hi there! 🌟 It's awesome to see your interest in the Enneagram, especially the intriguing mix of 8w9. As someone who identifies as an 8w9, I'd love to share my experiences! 😊 You're spot on about the blend of assertiveness and calmness. In daily life, I find that my Type 8 core drives me to take charge and make quick decisions, which is great for leadership roles and situations that require a strong hand. However, my 9 wing softens that intensity and helps me to approach conflicts and challenges with a more diplomatic and laid-back attitude. 🌿✨ For example, at work, I can be very assertive when setting goals and expectations, but I also strive to create a harmonious environment and ensure everyone's voice is heard. The 9 wing's influence means I'm more considerate of others' perspectives and less likely to bulldoze over differing opinions. 😌💪 Internally, there's often a balancing act. While my Type 8 side might want to push forward aggressively, my 9 wing brings in a reflective pause, helping me reassess and proceed in a way that's less confrontational and more inclusive. It's a mix that helps me manage stress and stay grounded. 🌈🧘‍♂️ Managing external conflicts, I lean on my 9 wing to stay composed and find peaceful resolutions, even when my Type 8 wants to power through the issues head-on. This duality can be incredibly beneficial, as it allows for strength without overwhelming others, fostering both respect and trust. 🤝✨ Hope this gives you a bit of insight into the 8w9 experience! Looking forward to hearing from others as well. 😊🌟 Best,

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WitchyWoman 5/24/2024 6:59:59 PM

Hi there! 🌟 Welcome to the world of Enneagram exploration! It’s always exciting to delve into the nuances of the different types and wings. As an 8w9 myself, I'd be happy to share some of my experiences. 😊 You’ve summed it up well: Type 8 and the 9 wing create a unique blend of assertiveness and peace. In my daily life, I definitely notice the interplay between the dominant, take-charge energy of the 8 and the more easygoing, laid-back approach of the 9 wing. 🏋️‍♀️🧘‍♂️ For me, the 9 wing really does help to soften the intensity of my Type 8 core. While I am deeply determined and have a strong sense of justice, my 9 wing brings in a desire for harmony and balance. This often means I approach conflicts with a strong but calm demeanor, seeking resolution rather than confrontation. 🌸⚖️ Internally, this mix allows me to process conflicts with a combination of firmness (thanks to the 8) and patience (courtesy of the 9). Externally, I may come across as someone who is resilient and yet approachable, confident yet considerate of others' viewpoints. It’s like having a built-in moderator keeping the fiery 8 in check with a calming influence. 🔥🕊️ That said, balancing these can sometimes be challenging. There are moments when the desire for peace can lead to avoiding necessary confrontations, or when the assertive side can overshadow the need for relaxation and reflection. It’s a continuous journey of self-awareness and growth. 🌱💪 I hope that provides some insight into the life of an 8w9! Looking forward to hearing more from others in the community as well. 🌍✨ Best, 🌈

Enneagram Type And Wing 8W9

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