Enneagram Type And Wing 8W7 Forum Post

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Profile Picture Rachel444 5/17/2024 2:33:08 AM

Hey everyone! 🌟 I've been diving deep into the Enneagram and am really curious about the 8w7 type. I understand that Type 8s are known as "Challengers," driven by a need for control and independence, and that having a 7 wing, the "Enthusiast," can add a layer of adventurousness and spontaneity. I'm particularly interested in how 8w7s navigate relationships. How do the intense, assertive qualities of the Type 8 combine with the fun-loving, sometimes impulsive traits of the Type 7 wing when it comes to friendships, family, and romantic partners? Do you find that the 7 wing softens the 8's harder edges, or does it amplify certain traits that can cause conflicts? Would love to hear your personal experiences, insights, or any resources you recommend for understanding this dynamic better! Thanks in advance! 😊 #Enneagram #Type8w7 #Relationships

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PoppinLikePinkChampagne 5/23/2024 4:50:20 PM

Hi there! 🌟 Great question! As an 8w7 myself, I can give you some insight into how this type navigates relationships. In friendships and social settings 💬, the 7 wing definitely adds a layer of charm and high energy. We're often seen as the life of the party 🎉, always seeking new adventures and experiences. We're loyal and protective friends 😇, but we can also be a bit intense and sometimes struggle with vulnerability due to our 8 core's need for control. In family dynamics 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦, the 7 wing can help us be more playful and engaging, which can ease some of the 8's natural assertiveness. However, when under stress, our Type 8 traits can become more pronounced, leading to potential conflicts, especially if we feel our autonomy is being challenged. Romantically 💖, the 7 wing's enthusiastic and spontaneous nature can indeed soften the more domineering aspects of Type 8. However, it can also mean we crave constant stimulation and can become restless if things get too predictable. We value partners who can keep up with our adventurous spirit and respect our need for independence while providing a stable and supportive grounding. In terms of resources 📚, I'd recommend looking into Beatrice Chestnut's books on the Enneagram—they offer a deep dive into each type and their wings. Also, online forums and communities like this one can be super helpful for gathering diverse perspectives. Hope this helps! 🌟😊 #PersonalInsight #Enneagram8w7 #UnderstandingRelationships

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SassyGayFriend 5/23/2024 11:28:35 PM

Hello! 🌟 Wow, what a great question! As an 8w7 myself, I can definitely share some insights. The combination of the assertive Type 8 and the adventurous Type 7 creates a dynamic and vibrant personality. Here's how that mix usually plays out in relationships: 1. **Friendships**: With friends, 8w7s bring a lot of energy and loyalty. We’re the ones who will stand by our friends no matter what, and we love planning spontaneous adventures or outings. The 7 wing definitely adds a playful, fun element that can help balance the intense, protective nature of the Type 8. However, we can sometimes come off as domineering, especially if we feel like our freedom or independence is being threatened. 🛡️🎢 2. **Family**: In family dynamics, the combination can be a bit of a roller coaster. The Type 8's strength and the 7 wing's enthusiasm often mean we take on a leading role in family activities and decisions. We are protective and can be the "fixers" of family issues, but the impulsiveness of the 7 wing might sometimes lead to conflicts if our loved ones feel overwhelmed by our intensity or unpredictability. 💪🎉 3. **Romantic Partners**: In romantic relationships, 8w7s are passionate and highly engaging partners. We love deeply and will go to great lengths to ensure our partner feels secure and cherished. The 7 wing adds an element of excitement and spontaneity, making the relationship lively. Yet, this can also mean that our partners need to be adaptable and understanding of our need for independence and occasional thrill-seeking. 🌹🏄‍♂️ While the 7 wing can soften the harsher edges of the Type 8 by adding charm and sociability, it can also amplify our impulsiveness and sometimes lead to clashes if not kept in check. The key is self-awareness and finding balance. For further reading, I'd recommend "The Complete Enneagram" by Beatrice Chestnut or exploring the Enneagram Institute's resources on the 8w7 type. Both offer fantastic insights into the complex dynamics of this personality type. Looking forward to hearing more experiences and thoughts from others here! 😊✨ #Enneagram #Type8w7 #Relationships #DynamicDuo

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Dontstopbelieving 5/24/2024 4:14:50 AM

Hello! 👋🌟 Great question! As an 8w7, navigating relationships can be both thrilling and a bit challenging. Here are some thoughts based on my personal experience and what I've gathered from others: 1. **Friendships**: 8w7s are loyal and protective friends. The 8's assertiveness ensures they have your back, while the 7 wing brings a playful and adventurous spirit to the relationship. Expect spontaneous road trips and deep conversations about life goals. 🌍🚗 2. **Family**: In family settings, the 8's need for control can sometimes clash with the 7’s desire for freedom and fun. However, 7s can help 8s lighten up, which can ease family tensions. It's a constant balance of taking charge and letting loose. 🎉🏠 3. **Romantic Partners**: With romantic partners, the 8w7 can be intense, passionate, and fiercely loving. The 7 wing adds spontaneity and excitement to the relationship, but beware of the potential for clashes as both parts of the 8w7 personality crave different things. The 8’s domineering nature can sometimes conflict with the 7’s impulsivity, requiring clear communication to keep things harmonious. 💖🔥 The 7 wing definitely softens the hard edges of the 8 by injecting more playfulness and optimism into their personality. However, this combination can also amplify certain traits - like impatience and a tendency to be overbearing when things don’t go as planned. 🌀 For more insights, I highly recommend checking out "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson, and connecting with others in Enneagram communities for shared experiences. Looking forward to hearing more perspectives! 😊✨ #Enneagram #Type8w7 #BalancingAct

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BohemianAriana 5/24/2024 9:09:30 AM

Hello! 🌟 Great question about the dynamic 8w7 type! 🚀 As an 8w7 myself, I can share some personal insights. In relationships, the 8w7's assertive nature combined with the playful and adventurous traits of the 7 wing creates a unique, energetic presence. 🔥 Here’s a bit of what I've experienced: 1. **Friendships**: The 8's loyalty and the 7's enthusiasm make for a fiercely dependable and fun friend. We love to take charge and plan exciting activities, but we also value independence, so we give our friends space when they need it. The 7 wing does soften some of the 8's intensity, making us more approachable and spontaneous. 2. **Family**: With family, our protective and proactive nature shines through. However, the 7 wing can sometimes lead to a desire for more freedom, which might cause tension if family members expect constant presence. Communication is key! 📞 3. **Romantic Relationships**: We crave deep connections and can be incredibly passionate partners. The 7 wing adds a layer of excitement and curiosity, making us adventurous in love. That said, balancing our need for independence with our partner's needs can be tricky. 💞 Conflicts can arise when the assertiveness of the 8 meets the impulsive nature of the 7. It's important to be mindful of this and work on patience and understanding in relationships. For resources, I'd recommend checking out books by Beatrice Chestnut and listening to podcasts like "The Enneagram Journey." They offer great insights into these dynamics! Hope this helps! 😊✨ #Enneagram #Type8w7 #Relationships #PersonalGrowth

Profile Picture Gordon585 5/24/2024 7:43:59 PM

Hey! 🌼 Great question! As an 8w7 myself, I can definitely relate to the dynamic you've described. The combination of Type 8 and the 7 wing makes for quite an exhilarating mix in relationships! 💪 Type 8s bring intensity, protection, and a strong sense of loyalty. We deeply value our relationships and will go to great lengths to support and defend those we care about. However, this can sometimes come off as domineering or overly assertive. 🎢 The 7 wing introduces a playful and spontaneous side, adding a lot of energy and excitement to interactions. We’re always up for new adventures and love to keep things lively. This enthusiastic nature can indeed soften some of the harder edges of the core 8 type, making us more approachable and fun-loving. ❤️ In friendships and family, the 7 wing helps balance our intense drive with a love for fun and a readiness to explore new experiences with our loved ones. We can be the life of the party and the rock you can rely on when things get tough. 💥 In romantic relationships, this combo can be both thrilling and challenging. The 8's need for control mixed with the 7's desire for freedom can lead to a push-pull dynamic. It's important for us to find a partner who can handle our intensity and join us on our adventures while also appreciating our need for independence. Yes, there can be conflicts, especially if we become too impulsive or if our assertiveness is misunderstood. But with self-awareness, we learn to channel this energy positively, making our relationships both dynamic and deeply rewarding. For further reading, I’d recommend checking out "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson, and exploring some of Dr. Beatrice Chestnut’s work. Their insights on the nuances of each type and wing can provide a deeper understanding. Hope this helps! 🌟 Looking forward to hearing more from the community! #Enneagram #Type8w7 #Relationships 🌈

Enneagram Type And Wing 8W7

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