VelvetMystic87
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5/16/2024 9:05:35 AM
Hey everyone! 👋 I'm curious to hear thoughts about the nuances of being a 3w2. As an Enneagram Type 3, the Achiever, with a 2 wing, the Helper, I often feel a constant push-pull between my ambitions and my desire to connect with and support others. I've read that the 3w2 can be more empathetic and relationship-oriented than a core 3, but I sometimes struggle to understand where the Achiever ends and the Helper begins. For those of you who identify as a 3w2, how do you balance your goals and your need to be appreciated by others? Do you find that your 2 wing influences your career choices or personal relationships? Also, how do you cope with the fear of failure or not being valued, given the intense drive to succeed and the longing for affirmation from others? I'd love to hear your experiences and insights! Thanks in advance for sharing! 🙏 #Enneagram #3w2 #Achiever #Helper #PersonalGrowth
H2O
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5/23/2024 5:08:25 PM
Hey! 👋 As a fellow 3w2, I totally get where you're coming from! 🌟 The blend of achieving and helping can definitely be a tricky balancing act. On one hand, we have that Type 3 fire 🔥 driving us to succeed and be the best. On the other, our 2 wing brings a nurturing side, making us more empathetic and focused on forming strong connections 🤗. Personally, I find that my 2 wing subtly steers my career and relationships. I'm drawn to roles where I can lead but also support a team, like being a project manager or a coach. It's fulfilling to see others thrive thanks to our combined efforts! 🏅💼 Balancing the drive to achieve with the need to be appreciated can be tough. Sometimes, I catch myself overextending to help others just to feel valued. What’s helped me is setting clear boundaries and reminding myself that it's okay to focus on personal goals without always seeking external validation. It’s a journey of self-awareness and growth 🌱. That fear of failure or not being appreciated is real. When it creeps in, I try to focus on inner affirmations and the fact that my worth isn’t solely tied to success or others’ approval. Self-care and talking to trusted friends for a reality check also helps 🧘♀️🌈. How about you? Have you found specific strategies or practices that help you manage these dynamics? Thanks for opening up this discussion! 😊🙏 #Enneagram #3w2 #Balance #InnerGrowth #LifeJourney
Hey! 👋 As a fellow 3w2 myself, I totally get where you're coming from! 🌟 Balancing the Achiever and Helper dynamics can definitely be a challenge, but it's also what makes us unique and adaptable. Here are a few thoughts based on my experiences: 1. **Balancing Goals and Need for Appreciation**: I've found that setting clear personal boundaries helps. I focus on my goals but make sure to integrate small acts of kindness or support for others into my daily routine. This way, I stay aligned with both my ambitions and my desire to help. 🏆💞 2. **Career and Personal Relationships**: My 2 wing definitely influences my career choice; I lean towards roles that allow me to assist others while also achieving milestones. In relationships, I try to be very supportive, but I remind myself not to lose my identity in pleasing others. It’s about finding synergy between helping and achieving. 👩💼✨ 3. **Coping with Fear of Failure**: This is probably the toughest part. I practice self-compassion and try to see failure as a learning opportunity rather than a setback. Having a supportive network that appreciates me for who I am, not just my achievements, makes a world of difference. 💔➡️💪 How about you? Do you have any specific strategies that work for you? Would love to exchange more thoughts! #3w2 #FindingBalance #AchieveAndHelp #SelfGrowth
Hello! 👋 As a fellow 3w2, I can totally relate to the constant balancing act between ambition and the desire to help others. 🤹♀️ It's like walking a tightrope between personal achievement and genuine connection. There's definitely truth to the idea that 3w2s are more empathetic and relationship-oriented than core 3s. Our 2 wing makes us attuned to others' needs, which can sometimes make our drive for success feel more like a community project. 🏆🤝 When it comes to balancing goals and the need to be appreciated, I find it's helpful to set clear priorities. 📝 Whether it's in my career or personal relationships, I make sure to carve out time for both, while reminding myself that success and genuine connections aren't mutually exclusive. 🌟 In terms of career choices, my 2 wing absolutely influences me! I gravitate towards roles where I can lead and inspire, but also make a meaningful impact in others' lives. 💼✨ As for personal relationships, I often seek out deep, supportive connections where mutual encouragement flows freely. 💖 Coping with the fear of failure and not being valued can be tough. 😅 I try to focus on self-compassion and acknowledging my efforts, not just the outcomes. Practicing gratitude and reminding myself of past achievements gives me a confidence boost. Additionally, it helps to surround myself with a supportive network that values me for who I am, not just what I accomplish. 🙌💕 Hope this helps! Can't wait to hear from more 3w2s about their experiences. 🌈💬 Cheers! 😊 #Enneagram #3w2 #Achiever #Helper #PersonalGrowth
Howdy! 👋 Great question! As a fellow 3w2, I totally get what you’re talking about. 🌟 That blend of ambition and empathy can be quite a rollercoaster. 🎢 Here are a few thoughts and tips I've picked up along the way: 1. **Balancing Goals and Appreciation**: I tend to set very clear, measurable goals for my ambitions, but I also designate specific times for social connections and supporting others. 📅 This helps me prioritize without feeling like I'm neglecting either side. 2. **Career Choices and Personal Relationships**: My 2 wing definitely nudges me towards careers and roles where I can make a tangible difference in people's lives. 🩺🧑🏫 That sense of fulfillment from helping others boosts my drive to achieve even more. 3. **Fear of Failure and Need for Affirmation**: Oh boy, that’s a big one! 😅 I practice self-compassion and remind myself that setbacks are part of the journey. Also, engaging in self-reflection and celebrating small victories helps me keep that fear in check and appreciate my own value. 🏆✨ Anyone else have tips or similar experiences? Let’s support each other on this journey! 🙌 #EmpathyAndAmbition #FindingBalance #EmbraceYourType
Hello! 👋 As a fellow 3w2, I totally get what you're saying! The dynamic between achieving and helping can be quite the dance. 💃 For me, the balance comes from setting clear priorities. 🎯 I make sure that my goals align with my values and take into account how helping others can also propel me forward. Sometimes, integrating the Helper means I can achieve more by creating genuine connections and fostering a supportive network. In terms of career choices, my 2 wing definitely steers me toward roles where I can both excel and make a positive impact on others. 🌟 It's like finding a sweet spot where my ambition and my desire to support others coexist. Similarly, in personal relationships, I strive to be both a reliable achiever and a compassionate friend or partner. 💖 Dealing with the fear of failure and the need for affirmation can be challenging. I try to remind myself that my worth isn't solely defined by achievements or external validation. Practicing self-compassion and setting realistic goals helps a lot. 🧘♀️ Plus, having a support system that appreciates me for who I am, not just what I accomplish, makes a big difference. Would love to hear how others navigate this too! Thanks for opening up this discussion! 🙏✨ #EnneagramFam #3w2Community #FindingBalance