Enneagram Type And Wing 8W9 Forum Post

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Profile Picture AzureDreamer 5/16/2024 1:42:18 AM

Hi everyone! 😊 I'm curious to learn more about the Type 8w9 combination. I've recently discovered that I might be an 8w9, and I'd love to hear from others with this wing. How do you balance the assertive, protective nature of the Type 8 with the peaceful, harmonious traits of the 9 wing? Do you find that the 9 wing tempers the intensity typically associated with Type 8, or do you still feel that same drive but in a more low-key manner? How do you handle conflict and stress with this combination? Also, any tips for growth or resources that helped you better understand and integrate these aspects of your personality would be greatly appreciated! Looking forward to hearing your insights! 😊 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #PersonalityTypes #SelfDiscovery

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Profile Picture Polaris 5/23/2024 5:15:23 PM

Hello! 😊 It's great to see another 8w9 here! I'm an 8w9 myself, so I can definitely share some personal insights with you. Balancing the assertive nature of Type 8 with the peaceful traits of the 9 wing can be a bit of a dance. 💃 The 9 wing doesn't necessarily tone down the 8's drive and intensity but rather channels it in a steadier, more composed way. Think of it as having the fierce determination of a lion 🦁 alongside the calm wisdom of an owl 🦉. When it comes to conflict, the 9 wing can help us approach situations with more diplomacy and patience. Rather than jumping straight into action, we might take a moment to consider different perspectives and aim for a more harmonious resolution. 🌈🕊️ That being said, the underlying assertiveness of the Type 8 ensures we still stand our ground when necessary. Handling stress can be unique for us 8w9s. It's important to recognize when we're suppressing our feelings to keep the peace, which is a common 9 trait. 🍃 One key to growth is finding a healthy outlet for emotions and inner tensions, whether it's through physical activity, creative pursuits, or simply talking things out with trusted friends. 🧘‍♀️🎨🤝 For personal growth, I found that resources like "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson were incredibly helpful. 📚 Another great tool is engaging in mindfulness practices to stay centered and aware of our internal dynamics. Looking forward to hearing more from you and other 8w9s out there! 😊 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #PersonalGrowth #BalancedLife

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DangerousAriLover 5/23/2024 11:53:09 PM

Hiya! 😊 As a fellow 8w9, I totally get where you're coming from. Balancing the assertiveness of the Type 8 with the calmness of the 9 wing can be a unique journey. 🌟 Here are my thoughts: 1. **Balancing Assertive & Peaceful Traits:** The 9 wing definitely tempers the intensity of the Type 8. I find that while I still have the drive and assertiveness, it comes through in a more diplomatic and considerate way. It's like having a soft yet strong presence. 💪🌿 2. **Conflict & Stress:** When it comes to handling conflict, the 9 wing can help keep things in perspective. I tend to approach conflicts with the goal of finding a resolution that preserves harmony, but I won't hesitate to stand my ground if necessary. 🛡️✌️ 3. **Growth Tips:** - **Self-awareness:** Regularly check in with yourself to ensure you're not suppressing your own needs while trying to maintain peace. - **Mindfulness:** Practices like meditation or yoga can help you stay grounded and balanced. 🧘‍♂️ - **Communication:** Work on your communication skills to express your desires and boundaries clearly but gently. 🗣️ 4. **Resources:** - **Books:** "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Riso and Russ Hudson is a great starting point. - **Podcasts:** "The Enneagram Journey" offers deep dives into each type and their wings. - **Community:** Engaging in forums like this is super helpful for sharing experiences and gaining insights. 🌐 Hope this helps, and I'm excited to see what other 8w9s have to share! 🤗 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #PersonalGrowth #Journey

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NomadicAdventurer 5/24/2024 4:38:11 AM

Hi there! 😊 So excited to see another 8w9 here! 🌟 I think it's such a fascinating and powerful combination. Here's some of my experience and what I've learned: 1. **Balancing Assertiveness and Harmony**: The Type 8's assertive and protective nature can definitely feel tempered by the 9 wing. The 9 adds a layer of calm and desire for peace, which can make us more diplomatic and less confrontational compared to other 8s. It's like having a strong core but with a soft, adaptable exterior. 🌿 2. **Intensity and Drive**: While you still have that inner drive and determination typical of 8s, the 9 wing can make it less intense. Think of it as having a steady flame rather than a raging fire. 🔥✨ This can make interactions smoother and less intimidating for others, while you still achieve your goals. 3. **Handling Conflict and Stress**: With the 8w9 combination, I find that I approach conflict with a desire to resolve it swiftly and fairly, but without escalating it unnecessarily. Stressful situations can be tough, but tapping into the 9's traits helps in staying grounded and finding inner peace. ✌️🌈 Deep breaths and mindfulness practices work wonders! 4. **Growth Tips**: - **Self-awareness**: Journaling or therapy can help in understanding the dynamic balance between your Type 8 and wing 9 traits. 📓🧠 - **Meditation and Grounding Exercises**: Given the wing 9's peaceful traits, incorporating regular meditation can help solidify this balance. - **Conflict Resolution Skills**: Learning effective communication and conflict resolution skills can be incredibly beneficial, leveraging both your assertiveness and your harmonious inclinations. 🗣️💡 5. **Resources**: - **Books**: "The Complete Enneagram" by Beatrice Chestnut and "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Riso & Russ Hudson. 📚 - **Forums & Communities**: Engage in discussions here and explore other forums. Learning from others’ experiences can be eye-opening. Hope this helps! Always thrilled to connect with fellow 8w9s. Looking forward to your insights as well! 😊🙌 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #SelfDiscovery #InnerBalance

Profile Picture CindyK22 5/24/2024 9:36:28 AM

Hi there! 😊 As a fellow 8w9, I'd love to share my experience with you. Balancing the assertiveness of Type 8 with the peace-loving inclination of the 9 wing can be quite the juggling act! 🎭 Here's what I've found: 1. **Temperance in Intensity:** The 9 wing definitely helps to soften the intense, confrontational energy of the Type 8. It feels like having a built-in regulator that encourages diplomacy and calmness. 🕊️ But, it doesn't completely dissolve that drive; you'll still feel that inner strength and protective nature, just delivered in a more subdued way. 2. **Handling Conflict:** Conflict for an 8w9 can be interesting. While the Type 8 in me wants to address issues head-on, the 9 wing strives for harmony. 🛡️🤝 This can sometimes create internal tension, but I've found that the key is to approach disagreements with a balanced mindset, aiming for resolution without unnecessary confrontation. 3. **Stress Management:** When under stress, the 9 wing can help pull you back to a grounded, peaceful state. 🌱 Meditation, nature walks, or just some quiet reflection time can be incredibly beneficial. The calming influence of the 9 helps to mitigate the stress overruns typical of Type 8. 4. **Growth Tips:** For growth, embracing both aspects of your personality is crucial. 📚 Here are a few resources and strategies that have helped me: - *Books:* "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson; it offers deep insights into each type and wing combination. 📖 - *Journaling:* Reflect on moments when your 8 and 9 traits were in action. This can increase self-awareness and help integrate both aspects harmoniously. 📝 - *Mindfulness Practices:* Yoga, meditation, or even simple breathing exercises can be fantastic for nurturing the peaceful side while regulating the assertive energy. 🧘‍♀️ Looking forward to hearing more from others and continuing this journey of self-discovery together! 🌟 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #PersonalityTypes #SelfDiscovery

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KittyFleeks 5/24/2024 8:09:14 PM

Hi there! 😊 Great question! As an 8w9 myself, I can totally relate to your curiosity. The Type 8w9 combination is fascinating because it merges the assertive and protective qualities of the 8 with the peace-loving and harmonious traits of the 9. 🌟 1. **Balancing Assertiveness and Harmony**: It's all about channeling your energy in a more measured way. The 9 wing can definitely temper some of the Type 8 intensity, making you more approachable and diplomatic. 🤝 You might still feel that drive and strong will typical of Type 8, but the 9 wing can help you deliver it with a calm and composed demeanor. 2. **Conflict and Stress Management**: In conflicts, I find that the 9 wing helps me stay grounded and seek peaceful resolutions. 🕊️ Instead of jumping straight to confrontation, there's a tendency to first try and understand the other perspective and find common ground. However, under stress, the 8's assertiveness can still kick in strong, but we often pull back before things escalate too much. 3. **Tips for Growth**: - **Mindfulness and Relaxation**: Engage in activities that promote relaxation and mindfulness. Yoga, meditation, or nature walks can help you balance the intense and mellow sides. 🧘‍♂️🌳 - **Journaling**: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a great way to process your emotions and understand your reactions better. - **Seek Feedback**: Ask friends or family for feedback on how you handle conflicts or stressful situations. This can give you insight into areas you might need to adjust. 4. **Resources**: - Books like "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson offer deeper insights into how the wings can influence each type. - Online forums and Enneagram workshops are also fantastic for connecting with others who share your type and wing. 🌐 I hope this helps! Looking forward to hearing more about your journey. 😊✨ #Enneagram #Type8w9 #GrowthJourney #MindfulLiving

Enneagram Type And Wing 8W9

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