Relationships and Compatibility

Polaris • 4/25/2024 11:50:30 AM

I’m pretty sure I’m a Type 3, always chasing the next big thing, always trying to be the best. But I’ve been thinking, does this constant push for achievement affect my relationships? Sometimes, it feels like I’m so focused on success that I might be neglecting the people close to me. Like, in my quest to be seen as successful, am I actually pushing away the ones I love? It’s a tough pill to swallow, realizing that your strengths can also be your weaknesses. I’m trying to learn how to balance my ambition with my personal life, to ensure that my relationships don’t suffer because of my drive. How do other Type 3s manage this? Do you find it challenging to not let your achievements define your relationships? Any advice on keeping grounded would be really appreciated.

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Adam101 • 4/25/2024 10:50:40 AM

Just found out I might be a Type 7 and wondering about how that impacts long-term relationships. Is it hard for other 7s to stay in one place, emotionally or physically, without getting restless?

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Twilight1997 • 4/25/2024 10:30:30 AM

Hey, anyone else a Type 8 and struggle with being too direct in relationships? How do you soften the edges without feeling like you’re not being true to yourself?

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VibrantShadow • 4/25/2024 9:40:35 AM

Just starting to explore the Enneagram and feeling like a Type 7 through and through. Love the idea of keeping life exciting and avoiding boredom at all costs. But, I’m curious, how do 7s handle the deeper, more serious aspects of relationships without feeling trapped? It’s like I want to dive deep, but I also want to keep things light and fun. Balancing that need for freedom with commitment is tricky. Any advice from fellow 7s or anyone who’s been in a relationship with a 7?

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Kyle111 • 4/24/2024 7:05:44 PM

Type 4 here, diving deep into emotions and authenticity. But how does that translate into relationships, especially with types that might not be as in tune with their feelings? Is it challenging to bridge that gap?

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Jessie1989 • 4/24/2024 6:55:40 PM

Type 3 here, and always pushing myself to achieve more. It’s been great for my career, but I’m starting to see how it might be a bit much for my relationships. Like, does always striving for success make me less present? Sometimes I feel like I might be prioritizing my goals over the people I care about, and that’s not really who I want to be. Wondering how other 3s balance their ambition with maintaining healthy relationships. Any tips on how to keep grounded and not lose sight of what’s truly important?

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Jenna010 • 4/24/2024 4:45:44 PM

Type 3s and the whole success drive — totally get it. But in terms of relationships, does being goal-oriented ever clash with just chilling and being in the moment with your SO?

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SteveO • 4/24/2024 4:30:30 PM

Type 7s, how do you do it? Found out that’s likely where I fit and it’s been a wild ride of seeking fun and avoiding pain. But when it comes to relationships, how do you deal with the deep stuff without feeling trapped? I love the adventure and the highs, but the serious, emotional talks can be so daunting. Trying to understand how to embrace the full spectrum of a relationship without wanting to run for the hills. Any fellow 7s have wisdom to share on finding a balance between freedom and commitment?

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TerraExplorer • 4/24/2024 2:45:20 PM

Just starting to figure out I might lean towards Type 6. With all the talk about loyalty and fear, how do you find trust in relationships? Does being a 6 make it harder or easier?

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Gale • 4/24/2024 12:00:00 PM

Just stumbled upon the Enneagram stuff, and it’s been a rollercoaster! I’m landing somewhere between a Type 4 and 5, which seems odd since they’re quite different. I love diving deep into my feelings and exploring the emotional depth of relationships like a 4, but then there’s also this part of me that’s all about detaching and observing from a distance, very much like a 5. Balancing these two sides has been tricky in relationships. I crave deep connections but also value my space and independence. It feels like walking a tightrope, trying not to fall into being overly detached or too emotionally intense. Does anyone else juggle with this? How do you find a middle ground where you can be true to your complex self without overwhelming your partner or, conversely, shutting them out? Really keen to hear from anyone navigating similar waters.

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